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writes:Helppppppppppppppppppppppppppp.... im 35 and be 36 this coming december. i have my 2 kids from the past and i taking care of them alone, and i need a boy friend to be my fiancee to be married with and to be my husband not only for the time being...... i need it desperatelyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy helpppppppppppp
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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (4 March 2007):
 I wont bother you with info on why you dont need a husband since you clearly said you need help in getting one. This is the wrong place for that kind of post. Most readers here are from the west, which is a long distance from Thailand. I recommend posting an ad in the lonely hearts section of your newspaper or a dating agency. You'll have better luck over there
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007): You do not need to be married to be happy. If you are struggling to support your family, then think of getting some more training, retraining or education to land a better job....when you are fulfilled and happy alone, then a man will be happy to be by your side as a partner, not a caregiver, he will not want to just fill an open position of boyfriend/fiance/husband but have you fall for who he really is...and you deserve that in kind.
I wish I were still 36, you are not expiring, so just chill.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (3 March 2007):
 Okay. I'm sitting at the other end of the computer screen thousands of miles away and I can smell the desperation. I'm guessing every guy you stand within six feet of is smelling it too. Men don't like desperate women. Tone it down a bit and realise that even if you do find a man he won't be able to magically solve all your problems. You need to be able to do that for yourself.
CD
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007): Wow! I may be wrong here and please, correct me if I am but...are you actually asking for help on how to get a man..any man to step in and support you and the kids? What the heck are you thinking? Empower your own life by becoming an independent, self-sufficient woman and go it alone. This is where strength and self respect comefrom, dear. I am concerned that with your way of thinking -you are ripe for just any weirdo, jerk or ass to walk into your life and your kid's life and create havoc, chaos, pain and guess who could suffer the most. The kids! So stop being so desperate to attach yourself to a man. No decent man with integrity wants a woman that needy and dependant. It's a weakness that will have them all turning tail and running off in the other direction. My suggestion: Look into local programs that help help young single Mom's get back on their feet. Look into fixing your own life and becoming self-sufficient by having a good substantail life in place, a career and educating yourself if you aren't already. But please, think of your kids and the prime opportunity you can teach them by being a strong role model and showing them-that getting out and doing it on your own, is the best way to go. Never, never, never expect a man to 'be your life'..they are only here to share your life and that's it. Take care dear and good luck!
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