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*atta_world
writes:i have a fear of getting hurt, eventhough right now im badly in need of a guy in my life (A faithful man, not just a passing wind) i always keep away from guys just because im sacared of getting hurt. I feel that every guy i meet wants to have sex. I dont want to let each and every guy I come across to get physical.. that thought is sick... I met a great guy few days back, he likes me a lot but this fear keeps on popping and when i talk to him it shows.. I cant want him to go away from me. He is about to stop textin me, besides he's in UK and I'm in Sri Lanka. Please help guys.
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reader, Watta_world +, writes (7 August 2009):
Watta_world is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis guy wwas kinda lyk ignorin me from the day he left to UK. Wen i txtd him he was lyk not replyn for ages.
I was chatting with him on line today, Its very hard for both of us to get this luv thing goin bcz v both r not very sure abt getting hooked.. Anyways i started talking abt business as he promised to give a a banquet booking his sisters weddin (I work for a hotel), before this we have spoken busines once, by this time he knws that im a sales and marketing freak. From the time i started the conversation i was asking abt this bookin nt jus bcz i wanted the booking, i wanted to keep it interesting for him.. Suddenly he said he thought that it was smthing more than business btwn the 2 of us & he didnt know that i was after business wen i kept in touch him al this time..
I was shoked to hear that n told him that im not that typ 2 sell my face to get business n i wouldnt relate my life story 2 a man to get business.. He didnt reply me after that.
Its pathetic bcz i dnt knw if he was already tired of me n was finding a reason to stop txtin. If not he must b still thinking that i was after business which i wil never ever do
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reader, Watta_world +, writes (6 August 2009):
Watta_world is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx.. Really Sweet of you guyz... U guys are right y shud i go against my personal beliefs just because Im attracted to him.. Afteral its just a good first impression about him n nothing much... If we were meant to be we will hook up some how.Thanx agn guys... When he says "Honey, I don't feel like talking right now" I feel lyk its similar to "I don't know if I have the ENERGY and the desire to get into this with you, because I'm afraid it will turn into some big emotional thing,and I'm not willing to go there with you now." What do you guys think about that... Is it normal or abnormal as it seems to me???
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reader, Watta_world +, writes (6 August 2009):
Watta_world is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx.. Really Sweet of you guyz... U guys are right y shud i go against my personal beliefs just because Im attracted to him.. Afteral its just a good first impression about him n nothing much... If we were meant to be we will hook up some how.Thanx agn guys... When he says "Honey, I don't feel like talking right now" I feel lyk its similar to "I don't know if I have the ENERGY and the desire to get into this with you, because I'm afraid it will turn into some big emotional thing,and I'm not willing to go there with you now." What do you guys think about that... Is it normal or abnormal as it seems to me???
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reader, Princess D.  +, writes (4 August 2009):
 i agree with yesca3
i am exactly the same way as u and have been frm little, always thinkin every guy is after sex,it is true, well except for my fiance whom i knew for 3 yrs been 2gether for 2. he showed me he is differnt from other guys.
keep ur head strong do not go against ur morals and ntn is wrong it having a male friend. the guy u let into u shoul b ur husband on ur wedding night.
as 4 the guy jut keep it friends and take things slow.my fiance is faithful to me.
good luck, GOD BLESS!!!
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reader, yesca3  +, writes (4 August 2009):
whats wrong with your situation.What are u nervous about? You dont have to do anything you dont want to. If you end up taking a liking to this guy why would you go against your own beliefs and get physical.Who you are is telling you that you wont allow just anyone to enter yourself, and guys respect that and most actually think more of you. and I am talking about the one night standers, if he doesnt call the next day after hanging out no physical part, then it just means he is looking for something else.(an ex girlie)If he does call then he enjoys your company.dont get too sure because he might not call after the fourth date or just remain a good male friend.Most importantly if he respects who you are he and like you for you the fact that you arnt willing to sleep with him quickly will be of no importance.so relax it will all work out as it should.Keep that head up and dont let anxiety let you from at least meeting a good friend.
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