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writes: Okay, here goes. Really need help with this one?I first met my girlfriend when I was 21 and she was 17. When we first met I really romanced her. Took her out. Wined and dined. But back then I practically vanished out of her life. I didn't want to hurt her. I felt we were both too young. I left her devastated. Anyway I'm now 31. She is 27. We met up again about a year ago. She was even more STUNNING now than when I first met her. She had went from being a young girl to this BEAUTIFUL LADY. One thing led to another and we became a couple. We were so in love with one another it was unbelievable. I can't describe it any other way but it was like something out of a movie. It was perfect.But at christmas some people started a nasty rumour. That she had slept behind my back. Thing is they had quite a concrete story.... I believed them. I accused her of all sorts. I was so horrible to her. I called her terrible nasty names. I don't know what happened but I actually became a different person. Even she said I was totally different and she didn't know me anymore. As a result we split up. She moved out and went back to stay with her Mum. (It turned out that it was just people spreading vicious lies.)Since then I have been trying to get her back. But she is having none of it. All this week I have been sending flowers and balloons and gifts to her. I have ordered all of this up until Valentine's Day. When we first broke up she was telling me that she was never going to take me back. That it was totally over. Anyway we met last weekend. I went to see her at her Mum's. She told me she still loved me but it was totally over. She never thought I'd hurt her the way I have. Anyway I always remember her old room having photos of us all over the place. But she's taken all of them down. Not one of us together remains. Since then she had not answered any of my calls, or replied to any of my texts or emails. But today I phoned her to see how she was. This time she answered. But she told me something that just blew me away. I felt like she ripped the heart out of me. She told me again that it was over and that she was actaully going on a date tonight. I am absolutely devastated. It's tearing me apart. She told me she had been speaking to this guy for the past couple of weeks and that she actually had started to quite like him. I fell to pieces when she told me. At first I thought she was maybe just saying it to hurt me, but her Mum confirmed it. I know her Mum wouldn't lie to me. Her Mum told me that her daughter just couldn't forgive me. But she said that her daughter had been talking to a guy for the past couple of weeks and they were going out tonight. She also said that she didn't think it was a good idea that her daughter was going out with someone else so soon. But she has moved on from me.What do I do? I have finally realised there is no going back. But I have this terrible pain in my chest. I have never felt like this before. Yes I have been in love before. Maybe once. But this was the one. I know that. Everybody knows that. All our friends can't believe it. All our friends knew we were meant for each other. How do I get on with my life? Tonight I'm really freaking out. Just knowing she is out with another guy tonight the bad thoughts are ripping me apart.I know this is all my fault and I hold my hands up to it. But she has clearly moved on. What do I do? How do I deal with this?Thank you to everyone in advance.
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