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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Please Help....I have been seing this married man for 2 years now and he has a wife with a baby on the way. i know its wrong but please dont judge. I went to the Gynocologist and i may have vaginal cancer, to top it all off my test results came back with positive with oral herpes. I dont sleep around and i know this married man sees me and his wife only. I dont know if my cheating bf from before may have give me this and i have gave the married man oral sex....and i know i transmitted it to him....i feel like shit i dont want to hurt him and loose him, I know his going to find out sooner or later....what should i do?????????
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (25 August 2008):
 TELL HIM NOW!!! A poor innocent life is at high risk!!! If you have any bit of moral value in your blood, you would worry LESS about losing him and worry MORE about the life of a baby!
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reader, mrttk +, writes (25 August 2008):
you should pray for forgiveness because i contracted STD through my husband infidelity, and it still hurts you're young and someday you're going to have a husband, and he's going to cheat on you,you said you don't sleep around but you do when you sleep with someone else's husband. you don't know if he's been around you should let him know because of the health of othr people, don;t beat on yourself so much the damage is done and vow to never do this again
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008): You are a very niave girl. Married men who have affairs with young girls are more than likely having affairs with other women as well. Now you have std's and you are blaming someone from your passed. I think you got it from the married guy. Like the other poster said, herpes generally break out with in two weeks of contact. They very rarely lie dormant in the first few weeks. You should call him up & tell him what the doctor said because babies born to mothers with herpes can be born blind, and with an array of other birth defects. She will need to be put on medication to prevent an outbreak during labor & delivery to avoid this. I am sorry about the cancer. I hope that you can resolve this issue, and that the man fesses up to his wife in order to protect thier baby. Another thing you might want to prepare for is the possibility of the married man dumping you sometime between now and when his baby is born. The reason I say this is because I know that a lot of men who are cheating on their wives suddenly get a conscious and feelings of empathy for cheating after they see their wives give birth and have a baby in their lives. Suddenly they are different men. I hope that this does in fact happen, but if it doesn't then he is really a piece of crap and not worth keeping anyways. Don't you feel bad for screwing another woman's husband, let alone a pregnant woman's husband? If I were you I would just tell him and then leave him alone, even if that isn't what he wants it is fairest to the innocent child who deserves two loving parents. Good luck.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (25 August 2008):
 You should tell him immediately. He needs to get tested and if he has contracted it he needs to fess up with his wife. The fact that she is pregnant makes this of utmost priority for you. Call him now.
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reader, Beybii_Boo  +, writes (25 August 2008):
 Hi Female Annoymous.
Best thing to do is to tell him. This way he may be able to get it treated before it becomes to serious.
You may lose him as a boyfriend or whatever but im sure thats better than him losing his life or a part of him.
Let him know you are truley sorrry and you havent slept around and your ex may have done this.
Good Luck.
Beybii_Boo
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