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anonymous
writes:basically, i need help... most of my friends have a bf. i got quite jelous. so i made up a fake guy so i could fit in and feel better about myself... but now i feel bad for lying to my friends. plus i no i will never get a bf cause all the boys call me ugly. and now i am thinking im bi because i am attracted to some chicks as well as guys,so my friends might think im really wierd. how can i tell my friends and sort myself out? Reply to this Question
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reader, ewm0706  +, writes (5 August 2009):
 hey as simple as can be if you can fake a relationship you can fake a break up just be really really sad one day and act as if he cheated or kicked you to the curb and your friends will be closer with you then ever before this is actually how i became popular in 7th grade and got my first gf but you must be a good liar and never tell anyone but yourself not even your closest of friends k
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): How do you know that no one will ever want you as their girlfriend? Have you traveled around the world? Have you met many different people? Have you experienced many different cultures, different languages, different types of people, different events, different avenues? How vast do you think the world is outside your tiny group of friends? How many people do you think there are in this world of more than 6.5 billion people, whom are compatible with you?
The world is NOT small. It is massive.
Until you tell me you've traveled the entire world and met hundreds, maybe even thousands of people and have gathered a well-groomed group and groups of friends and have had some experience in intimacy, THEN you can come back here and tell us "i no i will never get a bf cause all the boys call me ugly."
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Some people label themselves as either 'type' as being bi or straight because their loneliness in unable to 'get' a man or woman in their life, redirect them to another venue in which the chances may be higher.
In reality, we are all capable of being attracted to all shades of sexuality. Some of us are just more stubborn, others more defined.
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As for answering your question directly, I suggest the following:
1) DO NOT Tell your friends about the fake boyfriend. Instead, just say it didn't work out. This choice depends whether your friends are mature and understanding or immature and gossip-prone.
2) TELL only the friends you are comfortable in telling. Explain to them how you feel, why you did it and hope they will forgive you, then eject yourself from them to medi... No, I guess meditation may not work for you. In that case, then distance yourself from them a little and see if they will 'accept' you back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2009): You don't need to tell your friend anything, it's your business. If you are bi then try chicks too then, whatever float your boat, your friends will be happy with you that you have someone (girl or guy). Being Gay or bi is not weird, don't think that way. Everybody's sexual orientation is different, we're born with it. Be happy the way you are.
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