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writes:Hi everyone I am heartbroken at the moment, the boy that i loved has moved on and found someone else i dont know how to deal with it. We broke up a while ago but i always believed deep down that we'd find our way back to each other.I think its my own fault because i gave out mixed messages to him i never told him how i felt and now hes obviously got sick of that i dont blame him but i had just decided to admit to him that i wanted him back but then i saw him with a new girl. I honestly feel like i cant continue ive never felt like this about anyone he was the first boy that i actually cared about and i cant face life knowing that he is loving someone else. Is it possible that it could still work out? im desperate i havent rang him or pestered him im not like that but i have to do something, should i tell him i still love him?? help me please.
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reader, theloveofmylife +, writes (21 November 2008):
Im going through exactly the same thing, i really fell in love with guy and we were really happy but then this other guy kissed me. Although i did stop him my boyfriend didnt speak to me for ages after i told him. He dumped me the other week just after my birthday and now he really likes this other girl, someone that i really hate, but it really hurts me to see him with her and although everyone keeps telling me to just move on its so much harder than that. So i know what you are going through because so am i. I know how frustrating it is when people tell you to just forget about him because you dont feel that you can and it is really hard. But to be honest what you do need to do is to just try and forget about him and take no notice and if he does really like you he will want you back and will let you know. But if you are sure he still likes you then you should tell him how you feel, i did with my ex and i feel alot better although i am still heartbroken. so be honest with him and trust me you will begin to feel better even if it isnt yet. Good luck with it all and message me if you want to talk x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): i know what you mean. im dealing with the same thing. i dont want to believe that what we had was a lie, but when it disappears you feel blindsided. and unlike you i hung around, we still would hang out, kiss, and get more and mroe confused as days went on. one day hed tell me he loves me, the next hed be so mad if i tried to talk to him. moving on sucks. im finding it impossible to do. even remaining friends will stink. and there is another girl at school i think hes intrested in. i think the worst thing you can do is to tell yourself hes comming back, and youll be okay. my plan is this: wait it out, see if i meet someone, see if i loose the feelings i have for him, or see if maybe time has healed our problems and we just may be together again. expect the worst, and if things are okay youll be pleasantly suprised.
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reader, xemily06x +, writes (27 October 2007):
I know how you feel...5 weeks after we broke up, my ex started seeing someone else.
It is the worst feelin in the world...but time IS a healer, things DO get better
keep your head up and be strong :) xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2007): this is exactlly what i am going through i dont want to see my ex with another because i thought we would be together forever...well thats what he told me...just go on...see other people. ignore it thats all you can do. if he found some1 else he obviously has feeling for her. go out have a good time. this is your life live it up, not down. if he moved on, you should too
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni get what your saying but i know this guy inside out,iv been with other guys too so i know that you can easily be with one person while in love with someone else and in my gut i feel he still loves me so im going with my instinct, it might not work out but at least il have no regrets its never too late to turn things around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2007): If it does you any good you can tell him you love him, but it sounds to me that he has moved on and that he may just not be in to you. In the beginning you should have just been straight up honest with him about your feelings versus sending mixed messages so that way he would have known how you truly felt. Now he's obviously trying to move on which is why you've already seen him with someone else and he could be genuinely happy with her,who knows. My advice to you is just to move on as well you're a very young girl who still has her whole life ahead of her please don't dwell on on this one guy because there's plenty more out there and most likely you will feel this way again one day so just learn from it and if its meant to be you guys will meet up again one day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks will let you know how it goes, i just cant let it go but i will be prepeared to step back if he tells me he no longer has feelings for me, i just think i need to follow my gut. it could be the best thing i ever did but time will tell.i love him too much to let him fade out of my life
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reader, Bobbyjo +, writes (1 October 2007):
 Well, maybe you should speak to him and tell him about how you feel but be prepared for what he says as it may not be what you want to hear. You have done well to not contact him yet - your very strong as I know I wouldnt have been able to do this. Please let me know how you get on x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know i should move on but i still feel like we are meant to be together it kills me to think of him kissing another girl the thought makes me physically sick. I just love him so much but i dont think he knows that will i always regret it if i dont tell him?? i cant leave it like this i feel i have to do something. I cannot face life without him i really cant it was a misunderstanding that broke us up and i think he still loved me how could that just change overnight..
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reader, Bobbyjo +, writes (30 September 2007):
From what youve said, it does seem like he has moved on and now you need to as well. Trust me I know exactly how hard it is and how painful it is when you see the man you love with soemone else. I was like you - I felt I couldnt go on and believed that I was going to feel like that forever. But, and I know its a great cliche, time is the best healer and eventually you WILL stop feeling like this. I cant say how long it will take but I promise you you will. My ex left me for someone else and it took 18 months to get over it, now I look at him and I dont feel anything and that amazes me because of how strong I felt for him. Just take time out for yourself and do things you enjoy, see your friends, go to places youve never been before and you will see that as time goes on the less hurt you will feel. You say you are worried that it is your fault for the relationship breaking down - just look at this as learning curve and remember to be more honest and straightforward with your future boyfriends. Good luck, message me if you would like to x
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