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writes: I am a wonderful person with a lot going for herself but I have a tough time with relationships. I have been divorced for 11 years and I have been in relationships with unavailable men, alcoholic men, men who are too busy for a relationship, etc. I try hard to make relationships work and recently my boyfriend of 4 years dumped me for another woman who is older than me and who has children. I put up with all of his cheating, drinking and using me. I loved him and I did everything for him and now he dumps me. I feel horrible when one of his friends tells me he is telling everyone "I'm gone" like I didn't mean anything to him after 4 years. Any advice to get over this loser.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (22 April 2007):
 at least you know he is a loser!such a wonderful person does not on any accounts deserve to be treated like that ever and you need to really tell yourself this.take some time out from men and get back to taking care of you.You need to be around those that love you and in time you will get over this absolute loser.And maybe after you could then sit down and make a list-of the qualities you look for in a man that you know you deserve it may sound stupod but it will help.once you start feeling surer and better about wat u want from life,you will surely attract the men that you deserve.its all about self confidence and trust in yourself.you are definitely better off without this guy and at least you know it.hope this helps!would love to hear how you get on good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answer to my question. It is very helpful to gain insight from people who care.
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reader, Royofthe Rovers  +, writes (22 April 2007):
 Sounds like you've started already by acknowledging what kind of person he is. You obviously put up with alot and showed your commitment to the relationship by putting up with all his faults, but you need to recognise you were worth more than that.
Focus on yourself now and get on witht he things that make you happy. If needs be, stay clear of relationships for a while and start to enjoy you again before other people.
being cheated on is one of the worst things someone can do while in a relationship and it must hurt like hell being on the recieving end, but when he was the way he was with you, you must see you are probably better off without him.
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