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writes:i met this guy last summer in person and Me and this guy have been chattin a lot on the phone and internet, like everyday and i suppose i got used to it, i think i love him and he says he loves me too, but he hasnt called me for 2 weeks now, has he met someone else? or has he just lost intrest in me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2007): Ok do not kid yourself or make excuses for this guy. Guys who are into a girl do NOT ignore them for two weeks. Do not contact him. Its over. Move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2007): I don't think that 2 weeks of no contact in a new relationship necessarily means for sure that he is not into you, he may be afraid because he said he loved you, and freaked out a bit. If you want to do so I think you can call him, but say nothing about the fact that it has been 2 weeks since you have heard from him and do not act annoyed. Ask him to meet you for a daytime date of some sort where you can talk face to face and get to know each other better, and see then if he shows any interest. That said he has not been asking you out on dates but just chatting, so he probably has you in the friend category for now, but friendship is a basis for romance, so see where it might go....but if he does not reciprocate soon, you may want to just forget about him....
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2007): I am sorry for what you are going through,dear. All I have to say, unless he's been run over by a bus and has no way of verbally talking to you about what has happened to him, then I'm inclined to say...he's lost interest, dear. When a man is really into a woman, usually if he's sick or incapacitated in some way...the first thing he would want to do, is make sure to, somehow and in some way contact his beloved so she would not be enduring the angst and wondering of what the heck is going on. I'm a strong believer in the saying "Actions speak louder than words". When a man really is interested in you, there is basically no excuse him for not calling. With the advent of computers, text messages, messenger, email, land-line phones, mobile cell phones and speed dialing and faxes, nowadays, there just is no plausible excuses.
Sweety, remember, it takes two to tango. If he doesn’t sense the chemistry, let him go and move on. Know this for a certainty, that true love will find find you. If this guy had some backbone he would've ended it by being honest with you. Instead, he drops off the radar. Best to carry on with your life and get out there and have fun. If you are still not convinced, then send him a very friendly e-mail (no flirting!) and ask him "hey,how are you doing?" Keep it short and sweet. If he doesn't reply after 3-4 days, then don't contact him, anymore. Save your self-respect, try hard to forget him and please do not phone him. It's likely he's just not interested. Time to set yourself loose, heal, recover and go find the one who is interested in 'you'. And in the future, meet guys in the real world so you can spend a lot of time discerning who they are and how they will enhance your future. Choose wisely.
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reader, katy1990 +, writes (6 February 2007):
 call him, ask
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reader, cd206 +, writes (6 February 2007):
 Ask him. To be honest it sounds to me like your gut instinct is right but maybe something has happened in his life that means he can't call right now or maybe he just got sick of being the one to make the effort. The only way to find out though is to ask him.
CD
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