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*andalf55555
writes:I've been going out with this girl for about 4 months now, and I've fallen in love with her; she says she feels the same way. We get on well all the time; we rarely have arguments because apparently I have a short temper and get angry over small things, but when we do we manage to sort them out fairly quickly and easily. So generally everything is great. Except for one thing that bothers me.She spends nearly EVERY day with her female friend. By every day I mean every day we're not in school, because they go to the same school. But she is ALWAYS with her, (she says it's because her friend is insecure but she doesn't seem it at all) and whenever I ask what she's doing at the weekend, she's either already with her friend, or she's arranged to do something with her. and also, my girlfriend used to be bisexual, and she kissed this friend as a 'dare'. Now she says she isn't bisexual anymore, but I'm not entirely sure, and her being with this friend all the time is making me even more unsure. Could she be cheating on me? or am I just being paranoid? I love this girl with all my heart and I couldn't stand it if I found out she cheated on me, especially with a girl.
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reader, love-him  +, writes (26 June 2007):
 Hia babii just read what you put.. tell her this is how you are feeling, you understand that she is good friends with her friend but explain how upset you are about this weekend.. and why dont you do what her friend has done.. make plans... so that you have definatly got the chance to be just you and her... she needs to understand this and to be honest it sounds a bit like you will have to 'book an apointment' to see her.. if you get me? mail me if u wana talk x x x
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reader, gandalf55555 +, writes (25 June 2007):
gandalf55555 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk I thought this problem had gone away, but it hasn't. But now I'm not so worried about her cheating on me with her friend, it's just she is seeing her so much more. It's driving me mad. Her friend started going out with one of my friends and I thought this would be good because she would start going out with him more, and not with my girlfriend. But nothing, absolutely NOTHING has changed. And it's getting worse; her friend is planning things to do with her weeks in advance - now I don't know about any of you, but to me that's just weird and selfish. I wanted to do something with my girlfriend this weekend in the evening, just her and me, but NO - she's staying at her friend's that night AS USUAL.
I seriously cannot take this anymore. I don't know what I'm going to do but I am really starting to think this could be the end for her and me. And I really don't want that to happen.
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reader, gandalf55555 +, writes (11 June 2007):
gandalf55555 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice. I took it and I'm glad I did. I talked to her about spending more time with me and she agreed. She admitted that she knew she had been spending way too much time with her friend and she has been seeing me more. and as for the whole bisexual thing, I asked her if she would ever go back to being bisexual and she said no, and I believe her.
I trust her and I never want this to come between us again.
Thanks for the advice.
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reader, gandalf55555 +, writes (10 June 2007):
gandalf55555 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have tried talking to her about it but she just says that her friend is really insecure and gets upset over the smallest things, and if she doesn't go out with her she's left on her own because she has no other friends. But I know she has other friends, I have seen her with them. and apparently her friend has asked her to spend more time with her than me, which frankly, I think is out of order.
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reader, love-him +, writes (10 June 2007):
You r exactly like my bf who is (20) if ur girlfriend says she is not bi anymore, you can only believe her, girls at a young age are extremily obsessed with friends, like having sleepovers every night and being together 24/7, this is normal i was at that age.. now (16).. just talk to her and explain u want a bit of time wiv her but dont try and split her n her mate up cos that will end badly.. i hope i helped, mail me if u wana talk x x x
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