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writes: This is not necessarily a relationship question but i need help and google led me to you so here it goes.I'm 19 and studying abroad since September. i'm from a warm and summery country and am now living in a cold and rainy one...but for some reason only now this is really becoming a problem to me.Because of a commitment, i have decided not to go home for the summer, the time when i could meet all my friends and family and have a great time under the sun, when everyone is on holiday.All of my friends, foreigners or not, are heading back home this week and i can't really share this with them cus they don't understand what i feel. i don't understand what i feel.don't get me wrong... i love the path i've chosen and the decision of moving was certainly one of the best things i could have ever done... but this emptiness and anxiety are killing me. i'm not being able to devote myself to what made me stay in the 1st place and it's driving me mad!i need help to cope with it. any tips would be so very welcome.thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): Hi,
My situation was a little different. I moved to a foreign country where I didn't speak the language and where the culture was completely foreign to me to work on a research project. (I made the decision to make my first documentary, by myself with limited funds. Crazy right?)
The work took much longer than I originally expected, my mother fell ill in my home country and money was running out. I was very lost for awhile. I felt some guilt putting my family through such stress worrying about me. I began concentrating so much on the stress of my situation I forgot about the real reason I was there.
It wasn't until I accepted and recognized that my choice to move to a different country logically effected every aspect of my life. Sometimes, I think we consider moving to a foreign country or making a similar huge life change as just being exciting. What we don't realize is that by committing to the decision, we are also giving up the current life we have (the daily things we do, the relationships and the comforts of home).
Remember this, you will always have a home with family and friends to go back to, but this is your life now. At this point in time you don't live there and while you still care and love the people you have left and will continue to do so, your life right now is not living side by side with them, right? It is devoted to something else. You are taking the opportunity to try and do something challenging with your life and you must concentrate on your goals.
When you feel lost, take a walk, see a film, surround yourself with new friends (give your new friends a chance to better understand you)...just get your mind of it. And good news, homesickness usually comes in phases.
Be strong and believe in your decisions.
Best of luck to you.
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