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writes: im nearly 18 and i am still at school studying A levels. im in love with my teacher, i know this is not a crush as i dont see him as my teacher but a friend in school more than anything. he doesnt act like a teacher towards me and i feel i can talk to him about anything. he looks at me asif he feels the same way and always approaches me around the school regardless if i have seen him! i have been trying to fight this feeling because of the fact i know i cant have him but at the back of my mind i think he may like me too. this isnt just a school girl crush on a teacher, ive had plently of them. this is different. its so hard to know what to do. i think about him all the time and if i see him i get butterflies. he reacts to me in the class a different way to every1 else and people joke that its because he likes me. my mum is fine with me liking him and wanting him bad because she understands that i am older and that if u meet somebody i turely love then i must go for it. i want to approach him to ask for his number, email or to ask him about imtimate details about us but im scared he will throw me back knowing that is what he has to do. he loves his job and i know he wont put himself in that position but i also feel that he would want something else aswell. he has no girlf or wife or kids and seems like a fun type young guy that if i was to meet in any other circumstance i would fall in love with at first sight. i will not be able to move on untill i know 100% that he wants nothing to do with me. what shall i do to approach him? please dont tell me that i cant and that i must stop thinking about him because however hard i try i cant. dont tell me this is another schoolgirl crush because this is love! i know! just please help me. i need to find out how he feels about me but also become more intimate with him first. i must see him outside of school
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2006): I know exactly how you feel because i feel exactly the same about my pe teacher and he is always flirting with me and giving me hugs etc and it feels great. i can't stop thinking about him and like you said get butterflies whenever hes around, but i'm not goin to do anything about it until i have finished college which is only in a few weeks time so it should be alright. there are people like you and i am one of them so please don't feel alone. x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2006): I sort of know how you feel and it is totally not fair. why do we meet these guys in such complicated circumstances, if we didnt it would be so much easier but sadly enough they are our teachers im so sorry but i believe you should wait until after you finish school if it is real love then it will find its path. im not going to tell my teacher because even though he hugs me and we talk all the time the friendship is to good and i will get over him as i have only liked him for 3 month and i am trying so hard to consentrate on something else. good luck with what ever you choose to do, let me know how it goes!!
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (15 May 2006):
 I am quite surprised that any parent would encourage you to pursue this. That is not because I think it is a school girl crush...it is because he is a man in a position of trust, and you are expecting him to breach the professional standards that accompany his job.
I was a lecturer a few years ago and my students were all in their early 20's. One male student approached me in an inappropriate way at one point, and I made it clear that our relationship was strictly professional. If we had met in a bar then perhaps I would have gone on a date with him since we were only a few years apart in age but it was totally not possible as we were in a professional relationship of tutor-student.
If your teacher is attracted to you then it is worrying - not only because you are still at school, but how could you ever trust him with other girls if you dated him? Surely if he has his eye on you...who says he won't be looking at his other students endearingly next term? If he rejects your invite on a date then it would be really embarrassing as he is still your teacher, and you still have to go to class. If you really must pursue this, at least wait until you finish school because if you have any feelings at all for him you wouldn't want to put him under pressure with his job. You should also be aware that nasty rumours fly around schools and that could damage his reputation with his colleagues so it is best not to discuss this with your friends in class as it could just be very damaging all round.
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