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writes: I'm in love with my professor, problem is i'm already attached with someone else. I'm quite clear about the situation and what will be the consequesces if i cross the boundary to clearify with him.He is over 30 yrs old, and i'm 21. He is single (no gf)and holding a quite high position in my uni. When we are out from the Uni he will become my best friend rather than my professor. We share quite similar interest and he do help me alot in my studies as well. I'm quite enjoy the time when we spend together. I do have some feeling that he also hold same kind of feeling towards me (base on gal's sense) however may be now is not the right time or may be it is totally impossible to let me know. In the same time i also don't wish to hurt my current bf by telling him about this. Try not to make everything become mess, i think the best thing i can do is try to keep this feeling in my heart and continue live like usual.I think here is the only place i can express my feeling. :( My situation is no matter he really in love with me or not we also cannot together, so it is no point for me to find out whether he is in love me or not right? If i find out he is in love with me, the situation will become worse and difficult to handle. Trying to be rational, its really make me feel very sad. Just hope can get some encouragement from u guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006): Hi, thanks for all the replies. I din see my prof for around 2 weeks plus without any contact (he is on his vacation). However i found that the level of missing him was decreasing. Although sometimes he will appear in my dream. I believe it is just "LUST".
I feel very happy because i get my bf's support (i did tell him how i think and what happended). We are become closer to each other again, i really hope this kind of situation will continue even after my prof come back. Now i'm feel so sorry to my bf cause i hurt him, VERY SORRY. Yes i think my currently bf is the one i can live together for the rest of my life. I dont dare to say my bf he is perfect, but i can see he is trying his best for this relationship. No matter what happend we always try to communicate and seeking solution together. He is the one who will stand by my side listen to me and help me no matter what happend :)
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reader, zecky +, writes (1 December 2006):
some things to consider:
do you have a job?
what are his standards?
because these are the things that may ruin your relationship if you proceed to advances. all due to a guilty conscious... iknow what im talking about. guilty consciouses...they somehow alwasy manage to twist things badly no matter the intentions.
then again, if you two have really hit it - after looking through time and considering factors, mebbe...well go for it!
it's really sweet how you're thinking of your bf's feelings, it shows maturity. though here are some questions you may want to ask yourself: can you imagine spending the rest of your life with him? does he make you happy? it wouldnt be good if you married him and then regretted it, that would lead to a lot of problems.
in the meantime, all the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2006): okay, this is trickyy!!! it could be LUST you're feeling for your prof. but if you feel the feelings are strong and that you dont love your boyfriend like you used to...then don't lead him on. end the relationship and if he asks, tell him, you're feelings changed, but don't tell him you like you're prof! Don't tell the prof. you liek him, it could get tricky for you and he could lose his job and you cuodl get kicked out of uni and you're name could be all over the papers!! stay calm, try not to get too wound up on your prof. if you give him advances and show him you like him he'll do the same. sadly, it could never be...until you graduate. if you really love him, wait till then.
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