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writes:ok so iv been with my husband 6 years married for 2.. i recently went out of town and met someone... i didnt mean for it to be more than a one nightstand but we spent 4 wounderful days together now that im home... i cant stop thinking bout this other guy i talk to him on the phone some and txt... but i still feel like im missing something... the proplem here is i still love my husband but im falling for this other man im so confused can somebody plz tell me what im suppouse to do here.... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok for the people who seem to think i went to met this man i didnt i was out of town visiting family and thats how i was away from my husband because he had to stay and work... i meet this guy through my cousin we went to a bar and had a few drinks and things went from there not even my cusion knows about us nobody does i think thats the reason i wanted to come on here i had to get it off my chest some how
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010): Wait til the ferocious fury of Anon Female descends on your head the minute she reads this post, and pray that the flames are a little cooler in Hell.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni didnt go out looking for a onenight stand sry if i came across that was... it just happened i want to tell my husband i do but i dont know how to go about it
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2010): You went out of town to meet another man for a one night stand and then boinked him for 4 days?? Are you listening to yourself?
The first thing you should do is tell your husband so he can decide what he wants to do. He has a right to know what is going on in his marriage.
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reader, AnxiousBoyfriend +, writes (29 July 2010):
"i didnt mean for it to be more than a one nightstand "
Wow... If you loved your husband, you wouldn't be so immoral. He deserves to know the truth. And decide if he wants to live with someone that would do that to him. You shouldn't be together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2010): There is something missing from your marriage. That is respect for your husband. How did you manage to spend 4 days away from him? By lying? You come home and are you still lying? As everythings not perfect,why not tell him there is no better time for him to cheat on you? If you cannot play fair then let your husband find a better life elsewhere. If you wont let him go then an open relationship is for you . I hope i'm right in believing you are happy for him to do the same as you love him and being equal and sharing is what its built on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2010): easy,stop lying to yourself about loving your husband. have the decency to leave him which will devastate him for a while,but eventually he will get strong again and meet someone who will love him equally. he will look back at his life and you will be nothing more than a sneaky woman he once knew,who drops her pants when things are not going perfect.
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reader, romany  +, writes (28 July 2010):
 You need to think about your husband, and how he is going to feel when he catches you, and learns that not only have you had sexual relationships with another man, you have continued to decieve him and have allowed your marriage to decline while you put your energies into pleasing another man.
I'm not judging you, alot of people are in marriages and are bored, or simply not happy, obviously some things are missing in your marriage that has made you look elsewhere,and the fact you acted on impulse tells me excitement may be one of these factors, is it that your husband has changed, or are there things that you thought were never important before marriage, which are now becoming a problem.
If you love your husband, and can't see your life without him, then you need to end it with this other guy, and work to rekindle the love and romance with him. But if this scenario frightens you, as you really dont want to lose the feelings that your lover stirs, then you need to look at putting the new relationship on the back burner, while you end things with your husband.
Which ever you decide, I ask you please, to put your husbands feelings first, putting them of your new lover and your own selfish desires to one side completely.
Being cheated on is heartbreaking, being deceived is painful, finding out its been under your nose and you never knew is soul destroying.
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