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writes:I am 26 years old I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years, he is 20 years older than me. We bought a house together last year, I love him more than anything but the spark in our sex life has dissapeared. I want to have sex with someone else, there are two guys one of them is a trainer who uses a room where I work to do training, he is married and has recently had a baby, he comes to work for a few days every couple of weeks and stays in a hotel because he lives far away. I haven’t broached the subject of sex with him but I have decided to test the water next time I see him. He seems like the perfect candidate he’s older and there’s no way he would want more than sex. I do not want a relationship, I still love my boyfriend and think we are just going through a rough patch. He takes me for grandted and is only interested in his self most of the time but I’m sure it’s just a phase! The other guy is a sales rep for one of the manufacturers we sell, he is very sexy but single, he flirts with me constantly but does not know I’m in a relationship, it seems risky to have sex with this guy as he has nothing to loose and could ruin my current relationship. I do not feel guilty, I want to have se. With the married man i can’t talk to anyone about this they would hate me.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (8 April 2014):
 I wasn't actually joking, I didn't understand what the poster wanted help with. I guess as she hasn't replied, she's not really looking for any help.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 April 2014):
 would they hate you for wanting to cheat on your boyfriend or would they hate you for assuming that a married man away from his wife and baby would cheat on his wife or would they hate you for trying to make you make a married man cheat on his wife?
or is the hate because you think you can have just any man you set your sights on? I dare you to take my married husband and even if you were 100% his type get him to sleep with you. He would not. There are SOME that take commitment seriously.
wow... yeah what is the question you wanted us to help you with????
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2014):
I'm sorry but I was literally heeing with laughter at tisha's answer .. So as I compose myself what is your question ..
No seriously, sex and no emotions mostly do not happen, what does happen is sex increases attachment and then there's a big mess .. So my theory would be go tell your guy to pay you attention, your not a toy he can just lay down, as you have needs wants desires and hell he's not meeting them .. And come back to us with what he says ..
Take care sweetie don't be silly ..
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2014): People would be disgusted because ur prepared to break ur husbands heart just for a sexual encounter. ....grow up and give ur partner a chance , talk and try new things with him
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reader, YouWish +, writes (7 April 2014):
 Let me get this straight -- so just because your older boyfriend takes you for granted, you believe that a married man who betrays his wife and devastates his family is a better choice?? Seriously??
A 10-second orgasm. If you're lucky enough to have one.
You need to address the issues in your own relationship before you make a ridiculous mistake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2014): "it seems risky to have sex with this guy as he has nothing to lose and could ruin my current relationship. I do not feel guilty, I want to have se."I have to say, I have never seen any post like yours before. I'm wondering if this is a joke. You outright say you would not feel guilty for cheating on your boyfriend. And you have no qualms with sleeping with a married man who recently had a child. In fact, you acknowledge a risk of sleeping with an unmarried man (the sales rep) because you have no leverage over him in the case he decides to rat you out to your boyfriend. "I love him more than anything but the spark in our sex life has dissapeared." You clearly do not love your boyfriend more than anything. You want sex and you would go so far to approach a married man. It was bad enough for you to entertain the thought of cheating, but you went even farther. Are you really expecting a majority of the people on this site to encourage you to cheat?If you love and respect your boyfriend, tell him about your sexual frustration, try counseling, try new things in the bedroom, etc... If you've done all that and things aren't working out, then you two are sexually incompatible. What are you going to do in the next three years if your sex life with your boyfriend does not work out? You're going to cheat for years until your sex drive begins to weaken? Stop thinking about the instant gratification. Have some more foresight and re-evaluate what's really important.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (7 April 2014):
So what's your question?
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