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writes: Dear CupidI have been with my current boyfriend for 10 months, we used to work together, and our relationship is pretty strong. Unfortunately, I have one major issue and that is kissing. He does not like kissing ( and with that I mean the lingering ones... ) he gets bored very easily and does not see the point of it unless we are having sex. I on the otherhand, LOVE kissing, and crave more of it, or at least some! What can I do, and is it normal for guys not to like kissing. I have never experienced this before..Please Help
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2006): I've never REALLY liked kissing until I met my current girlfriend, sometimes we can spend hours kissing each other and it is utterly fantastic.
I think to have long, hot, yet sensitive and loving kisses there has to be both love and lust from each person.
If you lust after someone kissing is more a precursor to sex, but if you can allow yourself to experience the feelings of love, kissing becomes more of an act of love itself, just like actually making love is.
I can only tell you from my perspective, and so this may be wrong, but I would suspect that it is possibly a worrying sign if he only wants to kiss you when he wants to have sex. I happen to think it is one of those "signs"
The best way of telling, is to think, was he different when you first got together? Did he used to like to kiss you? Or has he never done?
You say you have a pretty strong relationship, so I am absolutely sure you guys can sort this out by sitting down and talking about it. Good luck and all the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2006): I don't think I could date a man that only wanted to kiss me when we were having sex. I think people who mutually love each other enjoy making out without sex on occassion and if my guy told me he thought kissing me was boring, I would be hurt for sure...
I don't have a solution for you, other than I might look for another boyfriend because why should you settle for a bored lover?
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