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female
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anonymous
writes:ModNote: out of compassion text speak was corrected. However the level of Text Speak orginally was more than is usual. Please next time - less Text speak?Hi everyone. I have been in a relationship with a guy for 7 months now and I have known him since over a year.We became good friends and he proposed to me. He was madly in love with me and showed me immense care.This is his second relationship and mine too.I had been badly hurt in my first relationship because of the lies my ex used to say and that was the main reason for broke up.My present boyfriend knows everything and says he will not hurt me anyway.But recently few incidnts have occurred where i have found that he lied to me and hid things from me.I have found a few text messages in his cell phone sent to girls which are a bit awkward.when i asked,he said its not him who sent that but his close friends who stay with him.he said he loves me truly and cried and begged me not to leave him as he didn't do thatI am suffering from these problems. I can't trust him blindly anymore, though he does everything that i say, cares for me.Still i dont know somewhere down I am afraid of getting hurt again.I go mad sometimes and I feel restless.Please advise me: how can i get back to normal and live with a peaceful heart.I want to continue this relationship with him.i love him madly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2012): Firstly, a past hurt looking for a second chance carries with it the pain and apprehensions of the first. The second may be honest or may not be as the first. The chances are the past will color the present facts.Any relationship cannot be built on doubts/suspicions. They only add to the existing stress. Relationship is only form once once own strength and not to prove a point or built strength through relationship.Any Relationship should add to strength and be stress free! What is true to a woman is true to man too. So your problem should not become one for him.Sit across and talk it over. Do not take thing for granted. Love is there or not there- there is no room for stress. Love is only sharing the strain it produces-and to resolve it without any room for one-man-ship. Only the truly matured can love but the rest can experiment till they learn!!
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