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writes:i'm about to be 16, he's 17. we have been talking for about six months? and well we have choose to date when he comes to my school next year, well anyways i think he's abusive and controlling. you tell me...1.) i'm not allowed to hang with other guys.2.) if he sees me talking to another guy and even THINKS i'm flirting (which i never do) he gets pissed and goes off on me.3.) when we were playing round the other day i barley touch his head to have him get off me, and he threw me up against the wall. 4.) he tells me if i leave him for another guy EVER he will beat the sh*t out of them.5.) he checks my phone sometimes.6.) he controls where i go.7.) he won't let me hang with my black friends because he's racist.8.) i give him a little and he wants more all the time, it gets old.and the last thing that bother me was that the other day we got off the phone and he told me he would call me back when he got done eating and he never did till' the next day, of course that made me a little upset and i told him it did and he said "don't make me hurt you" then he laughed... I don't know if he was joking, but it kinda scared me since he's a very muscular guy... plus since i know he has throned his ex and hit her before.what's your opinion or am i over reacting?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks and i will=]
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (28 May 2010):
 Over reacting? What!?!
You've completely convinced me that the several very good reasons you list here are why should drop this guy like a hot rock-like, yesterday!- are anything but over reacting!
You have a blazing bouquet of red flags here, girl.
Get away from this chump as fast as you can!
You're not even dating this guy and he's already treating you like chattel property. This will only get progressively nightmarish and you'll end up in an E/r as a statistic! Guys like this are dangerous and don't stop until they're living a life with bars for walls.
Just shut him down, this instant! No calls, no texts, no nothing! If you must say anythingt o him: tell him if he comes near you ever again, you'll have him hauled-off in cuffs! This guy (nor any guy) has NO right to shove you around, threaten you, or violate your privacy, your property, or your person, in any way. He CANNOT control you.
This is more than "a little old", sweetheart. It's totally intolerable as well as illegal and crazy!
Don't mess with this one, he's not a keeper.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (28 May 2010):
 It is simple. LEAVE HIM. there is no options or questions about it, you have to leave him before he manages to convince you that his behaviour is normal, ok or your fault, which it is NOT! He is young and already acting like this which means he will only get worse with age if he does not get help. You need to tell him you no longer want to be with him and also tell your friend or parent about the way he acts and tell him if he threatens you you have told people and you will inform the police of his behaviour, please listen to this i cant tll you enough that if you stay with this guy he will control you hit and and cut you off from freinds and family, please give some feedback and tell me how things go! i hope you can be strong and leave him! x =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2010): I think he sounds like trouble. Don't get mixed up with him, it will be bad news for you.
If you feel uncomfortable with it, which you obviously do, you should trust that feeling. Find someone else that will treat you better. You deserve that. Try to stay as far away from him as possible.
Good luck!
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