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writes:Hello.I've been with my boyfriend for over a year. We've had our problems but we always seem to work them out and at the end of the day we can't stay mad at each other. He's my first boyfriend ever and we became pretty serious very fast. He has told me that I am the one he has been waiting for all his life and he wants to one day marry me. I love him but sometimes I wonder if there is someone else out there for me too. He's had relationships before, and I haven't. I have nothing to compare him to. He's told me on several occasions that he fears that I will one day want to date other guys because I don't have that experience, but I always tell him, if I love someone, I wouldn't ruin it to have other experiences and be left with nothing. However, sometimes I do wonder if I should date more than just my boyfriend because I will not know what else is out there. Also, our ethnicities are sometimes a worry for me. He's Spanish-American, and I'm Italian. I don't have a problem with him being who he is, but I worry that our families wont interact well because his family speaks mostly spanish and how would they communicate? I always thought that I'd fall in love with an Italian because that's the way I was brought up I guess.. but I love my boyfriend no matter what his background. I am just so confused as to what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, sad father  +, writes (16 March 2007):
I think you already know what you want to do..... he will deal with it eventually
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): How could he know you are the one he has been waiting for all his life? It's very far reaching to the point I would be going...this doesn't make sense and let's inject some reality into that statement please.
Why is he so eager to make such a declaration?
How old is he and why is he determined you are the one he needs. I say need as it sounds he is in need and not necessarily he wants and hopes to build something with.
How did you two meet? Why would you choose him if you determined to marry an Italian? Why would you go against what you want?
I say being young may be a factor in this but I don't think it really is that, nor do you.
Something is up.
How are you lifestyles? Is he more of a bad boy? Do you date him to rebel against your parents?
More information please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): Seeing as this is your first boyfriend it is natural to want to go out with more than just one guy before settling down. You are only 18-21 and so don't feel as if you need to get married to your first boyfriend. Be comfortable in this relationship until the very end, play the court a bit before meeting the guy that you want to marry and have kids with and then settle down.
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