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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hello everyone, I hope you can help. I called the Samaritans but feel guilty, because I feel pretty blue. I met this man when I was 18. We went out and got married twelve years later. Since then we have split up loads of times but always got back because we feel like such a family to each other. Sometimes he has run away from me, sometimes I have run away from him. last time he slept with someone else (before he did not as he is so buried in his work) Now I am living with him again but i have no money and we are not having sex which is making him annoyed and often furious. The thing is he says he loves me and i turn him on, and the physical evidence is there, but I don't feel warm and loved. To be fair, he can't either. Sometimes the look on his face seems so greedy that it makes me recoil. it's probably only because he is not getting enough from me, not his fault. I don;t know how to tell him this. I have tried to tell him what I like in bed, as i know you are supposed to, but for me sex is about sharing love, not technique. I dont mind not having an orgasm all the time, I just want to feel safe and loved and loving. I keep trying, and trying to show i find him sexy, but i think i am now too scared after so many rows to let myself go with him, so i can see why he is upset. i dont want to be blaming him but is there any point in carrying on trying? i do love him for his many wonderful qualities, so i think there must be. has anyone over come this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2008): Honestly hon, I think you sound a bit screwed up about this. Maybe stop panicking? You obviously love him and want yourselves to be happy. And if he keeps trying I expect he does too. Perhaps you are misreading the look on his face, it is easy to do this. Have you tried asking him how he feels, instead of judging?
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