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writes:i've been dating my gf for two years now, and so far everything's been pretty great. really great. it seems to me like she is my first true relationship. i just entered my 30s and i feel like before that i was just drifting through the dating world with no real goal or woman in mind. and my current gf, i guess i should say my 1st gf seems to have been tailor-made for me. to the point where i love her flaws. they don't overwhelm our relationship and we seem to just have this easy flow. when something bothers either of us, we don't hold it in but talk about it. and i wasn't like that before. when something bugged me about a girl i just bailed and didn't look back.i don't know, i feel like she is just amazing. when we have our little fights, i just wanna kiss her all over. plus i love it whenever she gets mad and all i have to do is rip out one of my not-so clever jokes; she just bursts out laughing and the anger is gone, we talk about whatever started it calmly and patiently. my problem is that i love her so much that i'm scared to death to lose her or do something that would drive her away. i've told her this before and again last month, she just gets this really sweet look on her face and tells me 'i'm not going anywhere'. but it doesn't change the fact that i feel like i might mess up and lose her in the process. i don't know where this feeling is coming from but i feel like my previous behavior with women is now starting to really dawn on me and i don't want to treat her that way. she even noticed that i was starting to act strange and a little 'desperate' (for lack of a better term). i honestly feel like the guy in 'Good Luck Chuck'. the more i try to hang on the more it would drive her away. and i want to stop myself before i get to that point. people, give me some advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2012): Dont waste no time, you have found your soulmate! She is the one for you. Good luck!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 October 2012):
 I think Chigirl is correct you are ready for the next step.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (1 October 2012):
 Two years of dating, just hit your thirties... You've matured since you were in your twenties, hence why you argue less and sort things out rather than bail. But what was I getting at? Yes, time for the next step my friend. Propose that you move in together if you're not already living together. If you're living together then I suggest you propose marriage. But, calm down a bit before you propose. You don't want to make her think you're doing it because you're in a panick. And, calm yourself down: you shouldn't be in a panick to begin with. But perhaps something inside of you is telling you that it is time for a change, and in the past the change would be to break up. But in this case, you don't want to break up... you want to move closer. Take the step that is right for you. And good luck.
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