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writes:Okay, so my best friend was dating this girl on and off for two years. Most of those two years were a killer on this girl, because his parents would not let him see her and they would sneak around and he would always get in trouble. Several times he has broken up with her and gotten back together using the same lines like "I need time to fix myself for you" and "I was stupid and didn't realize I can't fix myself without". They are currently not together, but she "loves" him, they had talked of marriage and had rings that she gave back to him after the last breakup. I don't know if its love or infatuation that she feels for him, but for the past four months I've been getting to know her. I helped them see each other, talked to her constantly. It soon went from helping my best friend see his girl friend to helping my friends be together to telling her that she's dumb for staying with him, because he won't fight his parents for her. Her and I became the best of friends and we both now share that we like each other. We have made out several times and we hold each other. I love laying with her on my couch. Lots of our friends know, HE knows that we like each other (not what we've done). Most people tell her to stay single, some tell her to go out with me, and no one wants her back with him. She says she's in love, but she likes me and I want her. But everyone knows that she would go back with him if he asked, but if she is in love I can tell she is starting to fall out of love with him I'm sorry for the long explanation, but I need help and I need you to fully understand this situation. Should I go out with her? Should I fight for her, because that's what this is going to come down to. Should I fight even though she might end up leaving me even if we got together? And can anyone tell me how love feels so I can know if she is in love or not?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (22 August 2010):
 What is love.
Baby don't hurt.
Don't hurt me no more.
She's 16-17, sorry to say but at that age you don't know what love is. You got a long way to go worry about that stuff after college and when you come across the one you just know. This girl is infatuated with your friend if she was really in love with him then she wouldn't be doing all that with you. Her friends are right its in her best interest to be single right now because she's caught in a "love triangle" with you and him. Is she really worth fighting for if she still likes her ex? You would be the rebound dear, and no one wants to be that. My advice to you is to break from this triangle, because she's still emotionally tied to her ex an even if you got together with her her mind and heart wouldn't be in it 100% that's not fair to you. Don't sell yourself short, find a girl that is really into you, your young you got plenty of time.
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