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writes:Hi Dear friends.I am going through a rough patch in my life at this time.I am married and seperated recently but still my wife has not accepted my papers so practically we are still married, we live seperate though.I met this girl in my gym a few months ago and went crazy for her,fell in love with her at first sight and since then tried talking to her. Shes the best girl in the gym and every guy wants her. Shes very cold to me though, but friendly.I was lucky enough to land a date with her and we went out 4 times before we went to my place and made out passionately and I almost did her, but didnt complete cause we didnt have protection.My love for her has increased to the max and I am madly in love with her.Cant sleep,cant think well.Really depressed.Problem is that she is never the one who texts or calls me, I always make the first move, always.She ignores me mostly and I chase her a lot for dates and also just to make her text me back!!I have never done this before for a girl but I have been spending a lot of money on her including buying presents, paying her rent, buying furniture etc for her.She accepts it but she is still cold and does not acknowledge my luv saying that she is scared of falling in love cause of her earlier experiences with guys.I need your help to know if she is really interested in me or just using me for the things that I have been helping her with. I proposed her already but she does not pay attention to that. She knows I am married and waiting for divorce.Please could you help to let me know what I should do.I really luv this girl but I am afraid she will just use me and hurt me..appreciate your time guys
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello my friend. Sorry for the late reply and thank you very much for your kind help.
Here how its going now, she accepted my love finally, we slept together a few times and had a good time.
Later, I did a stupid mistake by asking her if shes been into one night stands? Boom..she was so angry and decided to break up with me and says she wants to be friends??
Is it good that we remain friends..
We went out a couple of times the same way but she didnt let me hold her had or kiss of course that she considers me a friend now..
Dont know what to do..really seems my life is being controlled by this girl.
Please help.
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reader, coldcaselove  +, writes (14 May 2010):
I'd say stop chasing her! Do not contact her for a few days and see how she responds. If she is really into you and not using you then she will contact you. If not you know your answer. You are making it easy for her to play with your emotions, because you refuse to stand your ground and tell her to treat you better or you are gone. I believe she just may be using you, but you allow it by not having a backbone. When she asks for something start saying no. Make her see that you don't need someone like her with an attitude like that.
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