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*okullove
writes:Please help me.Hai,i am loving my girl for last one year.we used to be good friends.always chats in mobile.i felt good with her.i have been in hostel for last two years.when i go to home,i see her and talks.she is near my house.all her's family know me well.days went by in hostel by sms and calls.love grown in me strongly. somehow i prosposed her.but i was shell shocked to hear that she and other loves in same class.our age is just 20.she asks me to think her as friends.i think of her every second.i dont want to move on.my love doesn't fade away even knowing she loves other.instead its growing high with full confidence.what i want to do except moving on from her.she is my life.i still sms and talk to her with love in my heart.what shall i do?how can i make her feel that i truly love her?how can get her?i am still confident but i dont know how to proceed.please help.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 October 2012):
 You are being melodramatic here. I can totally understand that you love her and want to be with her, but you NEED to accept that she does not feel the same way, harsh as that is. You HAVE to deal with that. You will move on you are still quite young. But the longer it takes you to realise she will not return your feelings the longer you will take to get on with your life. You cannot MAKE someone love you, that is life. You need to accept it!
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (28 October 2012):
You are being melodramatic here. I can totally understand that you love her and want to be with her, but you NEED to accept that she does not feel the same way, harsh as that is. You HAVE to deal with that. You will move on you are still quite young. But the longer it takes you to realise she will not return your feelings the longer you will take to get on with your life. You cannot MAKE someone love you, that is life. You need to accept it!
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reader, Gokullove +, writes (28 October 2012):
Gokullove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPlease,no way.i am not able to move on .we are just 20.girls love is generally spontaneous and temporary in this age.any idea so that i can make her to feel my love ?please.she is like my night and i am like a star.i will exist only if she exist.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2012): Life is like that sometimes. Get used to it. A wise person once told me, "You cannot make anybody like you. But I promise that you WILL get over it."
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (27 October 2012):
 Youve failed to attract this woman. Learn a womans psychology. Its too late to create attraction as she has already made her decision. You'll have to move on.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (27 October 2012):
I can understand why you are confident and why you want to be with her. It is clear you have falling in love with her and you want the both of you to be together happily. But the hard thing about this is that she just does not feel the same way about you. How you feel about her, she feels about another man. Yes it is hard to accept and it is clear that you have not accepted this. But believe me if you do not accept what she is telling you, then you will only continue to keep hurting yourself and nobody else. You will end up alone and miserable.
I am sorry but there is no way that you can possibly make her fall in love with you. It is just not how it works. She sees you as a good friend yes that much is clear, but she just does not see you in a romantic way and you need to start accepting that and moving on with your life or you are only going to keep on getting hurt.
It can be hard to remain friends with someone when you are in love with them. So maybe distancing yourself from her for a while may help you fight your feelings. You need to accept that she wants to be with someone else and start dealing with this. Try and look at it from a positive angle and go out and meet new people, maybe potential girlfriends. Something to distract you from this girl. Good luck.
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