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22-25,
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writes:Well, l am kind of in a weird situation, there was a boy who l had a crush on, but l thought he wasn't in to me. We grew up together and we did things we shouldn't have(anything other then sex*) but l thought we were just messing around, and he really didn't love me. He is 4 years older so after he finished his school he was sent to military.(for 2 year) and during that time l got into long distant relationship, and l thought l was over him. But that wasn't true. After he came back l realized l was still in love with him , not my current boyfriend. And And he said he is in love with me. But l don't know how to broke up with my boyfriend, l don't want to cheat on him. (My cr boyfriend is not in well state emotionally he lost his mother few months ago)
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (2 April 2018):
 To be respectful to your current boyfriend you should not start a new relationship with your old crush. As far as breaking up with your boyfriend, you could ensure he has friends that will support him when you do make the break. You should not stay with any one person solely for the fact that they are not emotionally stable. But I can understand you not wanting to add to his sadness. Start having a conversation about moving on. Try to find some positives in his life that you are not apart off, and encourage him in these areas. It could be his work, or sports that he's involved with. Staying with him out of pity and not love, would be doing him a disservice, and he would end up hurt anyway. Tread lightly, be respectful and kind.
Take care xx
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