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writes:I m in my mid 20s. I started dating a when I was 18. Through all bad times we were together. Long story short I was abused mistreated by him. He was verbally nd at time phsycially abuse too . He ghosted me then I was begging him to talk. His parents adviced him . I came to know he was in love with another girl.it smashed me . It was very painfull too.Now coming back to the story I know this guy S through common frds. We both were going out from 2018. He is good natured d respects me and gelled out well . We r seeing each other from 2019 . Things r good .My question is this 1) I don't wanna be clingy or make him as my world as I did in my previous relationship how to do that2) we both r from different religions. The consent from parents matters to both of us. There is very little scope of us getting married yet we r n love. How to handle if again we break apart Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (7 March 2019):
 Aside from being in love, what kind of future DO you have together?
If you have to be realistic.
It is entirely possible to LOVE someone, or care deeply and NOT be a good match.
I think this is a conversation you NEED to have with your family. After all THEY are your support net, the people who raised you and who quite possible, LOVE you the most and wants the BEST for you. All within the "confines" of culture and religion.
You can't change your parents choices and beliefs. You can't change your own or your BF's.
As GRAND as love is, you also have to consider how this could "play out" for both you and him.
Are there any mixed marriages, couples in your town, village? That you can perhaps talk to AFTER you talk to your family?
Before you worry about not being clingy... maybe you really need to talk to your parents.
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