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writes: I've been dating my girlfriend for almost 2 years now and everything is going great for us. I think she is the one and she thinks the same of me she says, its not in the cards yet, but marriage could be in the future.The only problem is, I've lied to her only about 1 major thing and that is i was a virgin but i told her that i've slept with numerous partners. I was a virgin when i met her and i lost it to her. The reason i lied to her was we were friends for months before we became a couple and i found out that she had a few one night stands with a couple of guys and that she is put off by virgins, she only likes guys that have sexual expierience. The thing is i really liked her and wanted her to be my girlfriend, so i lied about my sexual past and said i slept with numerous girls, so she would except. In her eyes a guy that was sexually experienced was more mature than a virgin, which i didn't believe. Although i was still a virgin when i met her, i had 6 years of dating experiences, but my previous girlfriends didn't want to put out, as they were waiting for marriage and i respected that. It wasn't like i was waiting for marriage to lose my virginity, i wanted to get laid asap, but i just had the bad luck of dating girls that wanted to stay virgins. But with my current girlfriend she was sexually experienced and was all up for it, so i lost my virginity to her and we have the best sex ever, we do it mostly everyday and on weekends we have hours of mathoron sex. She keeps on saying to me how glad that she is dating me who has so much sexual experience, because to her she says to me its the best mind blowing sex she has ever had and cums everytime we have sex. It just like great sex came natural to me, i just knew where to touch a woman,although i was a virgin before her. But the thing is i want to tell her the truth, that she took my virginity, but its been 2 years already. But the thing that really kills me, the more and more i fall madly deeply love with her each day, its kills me that she had intercourse with other men in the past before we met. Because although it happenend in the past before we met, it feels like she cheated on me. And if she could be my future wife and the mother of my children it just makes me sick that other men have been inside her and brought her pleasure. I even started dreaming about her having sex with her ex, and it kills inside. And she has know idea that she is the only one I've ever been with. When she believes i've had like 50 partners, which i never told her, its just what she thinks with the sex being great....So should i tell her that i lost my virginty to her although we've dated for 2 years already with her thinking i wasn't virgin??????And how do i get over my girlfriends past sexual partners, when i love her so much. Knowning other men had intercourse with her and that she gave them oral pressure?????????????????Help
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2006): I would want to know if i was her. It wouldn't make a difference if she really loved you. And how lucky are you being so amazing in bed with no experience!!!! Thank your lucky stars boy!! Honesty is the best policy, not all the time, but here i think it is.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (23 February 2006):
 I really do not feel that you need to tell her the truth about the loss of your vaginity she is happy with the sex so leave it at that, you seem to think she thinks you have had 50+ sexual partners, I doubt if this is true she is more likely to think you have had a handful at most as you are still young. she may even deep down realise you were a virgin but what does any of this matter, sex with her is good she enjoys you and you her so stop making an issue out of this.
You say you cannot stop thinking about the sexual partners she has had, again what does this matter, it is the here and now that counts.
Why are you worried about her giving her ex partners oral sex, does she not give this to you?
we all have a past and you need to respect this and move on as you and her are the future, dont let the past ruin that.
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