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writes:hiya, im 22 a gay male, ive meet a really nice lad who i like alot, he likes me aswell, the only problems is that this lad ive meet already has a boyfriend, wot can i do to persuade him to leave his boyfriend for me, me and this lad have already spent many evenings together and he has told me that he likes me alot too, im worried that we will only end up as friends, there is somethink between us that seems right, my best friend told us both we should give it a go at a relationship but i dont think he wants that. how can i deal with this. i feel this lad is the one for me as i feel wanted by him. is there any advice i can give him to show how much i feel for this lad?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2005): You're thinking is at once selfish AND short-sighted. Consider: you are actively trying to sabotage someone else's relationship. I'm sure you think that you and this guy have something incredibly special, but please try and understand that he probably has something equally meaningful with his current boyfriend, that's why they're dating. If this is too much for you, try and consider how you would treat someone who came along and tried to woo your beau away from you. Secondly, from a strictly pragmatic point of view, consider what would happen if you DID lure this guy away from his current boyfriend. That would mean that you have just secured an easily temptable and fickle boyfriend. In the longterm, that is a bad thing for you, too. Your only choice is to stay in touch with this guy on platonic terms and wait your turn to date him when (and if) his current relationship sours. In the meantime, NO MEDDLING.
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