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writes:hey well ive sort of really really like this guy at my school and i mean really but recently i fell in love with my best friends brother and i got heartbroken from him i liked him for about 1 and a half years and now i realy dont want to get hurt again and even if i was ok with trusting guys again and knew that i was ready to like boys again this guy doesnt even no i exisit hes like a proper popular mosher and hes such a nice guy, well what ive seen of him anyway and i really like him but ive never talked to him becuase ive never talked to him cuz hes in year 11 and im not im in year 9 so its really hard to strike up a conversation with someone who he doesnt no and i would be to scared to anyway please help should i even go back to liking boys again after everythin or should i like a guy i no will never happen cuz hes so popular and im well not really thanks a lot xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2006): [sigh] Don't mind my excessive sighing. Must be the weather...
Hmm... Well, as you will grow up to know, you can choose to stop liking someone, but this is a natural phenomena that happens. So to suppress you liking someone isn't something doable, unless you have a very active lifestyle to fill the void of your wandering mind.
As far as chances goes, there is ALWAYS a chance, but whether that opportunity arises or not is really up to quite a few factors: luck ('randomness' of scenerios), your own actions, his tastes, the people around you, etc. So how do you create his opportunity? You can do the things he does, join the same clubs he does, hang out with the same friends he does, be a similar way he is. The thing is though, what if he appreciates strength and originality? So being yourself and getting noticed might be a way to bait him. No one really knows here on DC, cuz we don't know anything about this guy you're talking about.
Plus that whole thing about getting hurt again - well, if you don't want to get hurt, you can shut yourself out of society and the whole dating game, but you're going to miss out. Some people, in their whole entire lives, they stop doing certain things because they once got hurt really badly before, but I tell you, sh*t happens all the freakin time, but then a lot of great things also happen all the time too. Like I always say, it's all a risk. You don't do anything, you risk. You do something, it's a risk too.
It's just a matter of what you're willing to risk. Being alone forever and think about what it could have been like, or possibly being hurt and never really finding the right person? Hey, a lot of it has to do with yourself. If you make 10 mistakes, and never learn from it, then hell, you deserve to continue to be an idiot. However, if you make your mistakes, step back, learn from them, then possibly you can get something great from life.
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