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writes: was wondering if people could advise me as im confused and depressed by this situation.i've been seeing this girl. we slept together a couple of times and it all seemed good. then she suddenyl started being busy- going to parties and stuff and didnt want me to come to. i asked why and she said she enjoyed meeting people and that if ur in a couple you dont meet people that much. i took this as ok (maybe i was stupid at this stage)i saw her a few times after that but never in the evening so we havent slept together again but when we left we'd kiss each other and she would stroke my leg and stuff when we were together.then about 2 weeks ago we spoke and i asked her what i was to her and she said that i was just a friend. she also said that she would sleep with other guys although she didnt know when. i tried to get over her at this stage as this was not the impression she'd given me earliar on and i was annoyed and hurt.she then sent me a message today saying that she'd been missing me and so i got sucked back in to thinking things were back on. stupidly i checked her fb profile (i know i shouldnt do this but its so hard not too) and i see comments from some guy about hitting on her and her being so hot and seeing her breasts and stuff. it might be a joke but its kicked me in the stomach AGAIN.i just asked her if she wanted to meet up but she said she's too busy (although i can see shes going to parties this week)what should i do? i like this girl alot. what does she want? its tough cos we live and work in the same area of a small town and i have to walk near her house to get to work and so i will probably see her.
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reader, DV1  +, writes (14 November 2012):
 She's a flake. Run. if you can't run, walk quickly, or fly, or drive, or get a segway or a moped and speed away...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2012): I agree with the others. She is screwing other people right now. You should do the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2012): This girl is not girl-friend material for you at this point in her life. At this point, she wants to be single.
There is no need to feel confused. She does not want to be your girlfriend. She may enjoy sex and spending some time with you. This does not mean you are in a committed relationship.
Feeling depressed about this is your choice. Most people go through unrequited love or attraction at some point in their lives. It appears your time for disappointment is now.
The sooner you can see clearly that she is not your girlfriend and that she has clearly demonstrated a desire to be single, the sooner you are on your way to getting over her.
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reader, Beile  +, writes (13 November 2012):
 I'm sorry. She's just not the girl for you.
She seems to be that wild type of girl who would just wanna have fun. Disregarding serious relationship.
She likes to meet guys in parties and have a one night stand with them. (Not going as couple would give her opportunities to meet single men)
Although she says that she misses you, she could have been saying it to a couple of guys who she hasn't seen for awhile.
All I can say that, she's a player.
She's not into a real relationship.
So I suggest that you look somewhere else.
If you are finding a real relationship, not a friend with benefits.
Good Luck~
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