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writes:Ok, here goes nothing!I am a confident 23 year old male. I met this girl (19) about 2 months ago and we hit it off. We spent many late night chatting/texting each other. Mostly learning about each other through those chats. I found out that she has never had a boyfriend, is a virgin, hasn't even had a guy hold her hand. She is christian like I am and she is saving herself for marriage- which I respect a lot. So anyhow after a week or so of talking with her daily and seeing her at this club we are both involved in at college. I called her and asked if she wanted to go on a date. She said she would, but it was really close to Thanksgiving holidays, and we both had a ton of work to do with school. I know this is the truth cause that is all she did that weekend.So either way - thanksgiving came and went, and I got really busy with school. I still kept in good contact with her. Well fast forward to this week. I saw her in person at an event and we hung out. She seemed like her normal self around me. After that event - I noticed that she really isn't responding to my texts. If she does - they are shorter answers than usual. I know she is not dating anyone ATM so I am not sure what is going on.I am writing to ask what I should do in this situation. Has she lost interested, or is she just really busy? Should I just stop texting/talking to her and see if she gets back to me? I don't want to come off as desperate but I do like this girls values. Advice on how to proceed please!
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (6 December 2011):
 I'd say she's not that interested. She might have said yes the first time but only to be nice about it. People can talk and chat forever but when it comes down to it, and a date is involved, many back out.
But, I could be completely wrong. Take a chance and ask her out again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2011): She probably expected you to ask her out again, since it wasn't possible the first time. Now is your chance to make a move! Before you are in the friend zone. Tell her you like her a lot and want to take her out somewhere so you can both get to know each other better, also reassure her you are not looking for sex, tell her straight out she will appreciate you being forward to reassure her.
She may think since she is waiting until she is married that you might get bored with her, so if you can handle the non sex thing and you really do like this girl, make your feelings known. If by some chance she has decided she is not interested, well at least you'll know and you won't have lost anything, so you can just move on, but give it a good, she might just have her own insecurities.
Good luck.x
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