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writes: Advice appreciated! There are some truly amazing agony aunts and uncles out there and I would love your input on this one!I know this amazing guy and we have great chemistry. We talk and laugh and have so much in common and I find him soooo attractive.A little while ago I managed to ask him to meet me for coffee as (a) i wanted to see him (b) i respect his opinion a lot and i needed some career advice as he is a similar field to myself and being a few years older than myself and a bit higher up in the industry - i was keen for some advice (c) often I don't get to be alone with him so i wanted to see how the chemistry was one on one before I did anything else. Anyway, we had the best time. 4 hours flew by and we talked about all sorts of things but I don't know what to do about it now. It wasn't really a date - and i can't be asking for advice every week, I just want to know what is the best way to follow it up and let him know that I like him as much more than just a career advisor! We are friends and have lots of mutual friends and I don't want to stuff up a great friendship so I need a way to do this in a subtle way.Any hints?Thank you! Reply to this Question
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (27 January 2006):
 hi, well it does sound like you have a good friendship, do either of you have a partner, you really need to know if he is free before you advance this further, if he is then why not send him a text or e-mail thanking him for the advice and telling him what you did with it, did you follow any of it? next just bite the bullet and say something in e-mail like "enjoyued your company and would like to take you for a drink!!" now this could be interpreted as a thank you drink or as a date drink, but it opens up the door for another meeting without the pressure of an actual full on date, and if he declines the drink then you have your answer without spoiling the friendship. go for it and good luck.
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