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writes:There is a guy at school that I really like and have for a while now and I feel like its becoming more, but probably just for me. I have gone out with him and few times and we have kissed and stuff but it hasn't gone too far. He always talked about other girls and because we were only seeing each other I tried to make it look like it didn't bother me, although it did. He recently told me that he was "off women" cos he needed to think things through and I found out from him that there is another girl and she is probably more his kind of person. However he told me that me and him had a connection and that he wanted it to work, but because we have different interests he feels it wouldn't work. But the funny thing is he doesn't know one thing about my interests cos we never really spoke about it. I txted him telling him that basically if there was something there and he wanted it to work we should try getting to know each other first and that if there was nothing there still after we got to know each other then we can be friends and I would be fine with that. he hasn't txt me back and I don't know what else to do. I was thinking about maybe leaving him alone for a while and seeing what happened. I like him Sooo much I have never felt like this for anyone before. Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Kyia +, writes (5 December 2008):
Kyia is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou lots for all your advice. I have basically decided to be myself around him and see what happens, I still have feelings for him.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (4 December 2008):
 I think you're right to leave him alone for a while. Let him come to miss you and maybe he'll contact you soon. I think you're quite right to be cautious and that's a sensible way of keeping your heart from being bruised for no good reason. As katatonik said, though, don't wait around for too long, or stop talking with other guys, you don't want to put yourself on the shelf if he's just not that interested.
Good luck!
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reader, katatonik +, writes (3 December 2008):
 If he really wanted you, all it would take would be an expression of mutual interest from you to get the ball rolling on this one. Unfortunately, if you guys have "kissed and stuff" and he still hasn't tried to make the relationship any more permanent, he's probably still pining for her. Unless you are really bent on being second best to him, I think you are right to leave him alone. But don't wait too long for this guy in the hope that he changes his mind, because he may not. Good luck =]
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