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writes: So for this I'm going to use the letters K and W. Alright so I've liked this guy, W, since freshman year (of high school) he's a grade above me but he's also one of my really good friends. Well W also had a huge crush on my best friend. So while I had a massive crush on him he had a massive crush on her, luckily she didn't like him back but liking someone you can't have is still just as horrible. He's over her now but I'm pretty sure I'm just not his type, like at one point he was even saying I'm like a sister to him. I mean I said he was like a brother just so he wouldn't suspect I like him but I feel like those aren't the same things. I thought I had gotten over him but every time I stopped liking him, within a month those feelings came back but harder. But this year (my sophomore year his junior) I was able to really get over him w/ no feelings at all, or so I thought, I went a lovely 4 months before those feelings came like a nuc. So now I don't know what to do, I like him so much but I feel like there's no chance at all for me and I don't want to like him, I've tried not to but like I said it keeps coming back, I just don't know what to do anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you! those helped out a lot. Unfortunately he is now dating a mutual friend of ours, not the one I was talking about but yea at this point I've completely given up, yes I still have feelings for him but there's no point having hope anymore. Thank you guys for your advice though, I really appreciate it.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (23 May 2016):
I am sure it was difficult for you when he likes your friend and you liked him. You say he is over her now, but you can never be sure, because only he knows how he really feels.
The thing is he has described you as a sister to him, so to me that is him straight away telling you he has no romantic interest. It can be hard dealing with feelings, especially if they are not returned. But there is nothing from your post that makes me think that he is interested. You will soon get over him, I know at the moment it seems that he is always taking over your thoughts and your mind, but give it time and you will finish school meet others and develop other crushes.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (23 May 2016):
You need to play the long game. Eventually he'll come around to you. Just always be there. If you want to, set a time limit. You might say a year. If he hasn't twigged you are his main admirer by that time you will probably have got tired of him anyway.
Incidentally I not sure about 'types' for people. If you look around you will notice some unusual pairings among your friends, family and acquaintances.
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