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writes:Okay so here's the thing. I'm 20 and I'm in love with someone who is 26 and lives with someone already. I see him at my workplace so I can't really do anything about being in love with him, because I've never felt this strong attraction towards someone before. He has charisma, he shares my interests and is brilliant as a preson. On top of it, he has strong moral standards and everyone who knows him must love him.The problem is, he feels something towards me as well, and when he confronted me with my own feelings, asking me directly about it, I denied it because I felt it was the best thing to do, considering the fact that he is in a long-term realtionship.Seeing that he likes me back, I assume he thinks it is just an infatuation caused by a relationship's dull reality. I think it might be it too, for him. But for me...I'm sure this is love.My question is, how do I get over it considering the fact that I'm his friend and I talk to him every day on our workplace? I know the best thing would be to stay out of their way, but I'm not quite sure how to do that without being hurt a lot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you..though it isn't working yet, I'm sure it will.
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reader, Paula4u  +, writes (23 January 2008):
 You wont be able to avoid him, his friends, family etc, Dont feel bad just think every time you accidently meet, THINK : you dont need this.
What you need is an ordinary love simple pure and committing, we all do.. Just think YOU DONT NEED THIS. Try it, remember how when you wanted to ask your mam something and it took 10X Mam, Mam, Mam, Mam etc before she answered. Go into that mode when you meet or see each other.. Its a neutral mode we all can do it. It will hurt less and be less stressfull. Good Luck. and Hugs.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (23 January 2008):
 Get transferred to another department or another location or find another job .
Find a b/f and he will give you up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThey changed my title, the question wasn't whether or not to come clean, as I decided not to a long time ago...the question was how to stay out of their way. How to avoid him and find happiness somewhere else.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (22 January 2008):
You can treat him like a brother.That way you will not feel guilty about it.
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reader, Paula4u +, writes (22 January 2008):
To be honest? Don't let him make the first move and if he does, make sure he is single again. Being in love or infatuated is nice, but once you start a messy relationship it can destroy all the good things with lies, cheating, jealousy etc.. Keep well away, he has some one why hut her
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