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writes:I can totally be the one pursuing the girl, but when I find out she likes me back and she gets all attached to me, I don't like her anymore. Is that normal? or is that me finding things wrong with her because I'm not completely self assured? or is it because she was too easy to get and I want more of a challenge subconsciously? I cannot for the life of me figure out what my deal is! anyone else do this too? girls too. and guys why do you do it?guys why do you do it ? Reply to this Question
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (15 July 2009):
 I believe this is a fear of commitment going on. It is possible you like the chase and there are a lot of guys and gals who like that. Maybe you feel she is not worthy of you if she was so easy to get. Maybe you don't want to escalate a relationship and once you get the girl you will have to do that. Only you can really know what's going on in your head.
Sometimes when we "catch" someone we do get to know them like christina says. Maybe the image you had of the girl during the chase isn't reality of what you caught.
I will say that we girls were taught very young to play hard to get because of guys who don't like girls that are easy to catch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): hi im christina.
i had the same problem
i liked this guy but he was hard to get and sometimes he would ignore me or it seemed that way..but one day we hung out and made out..but after that i didnt feel the same it was as if i knew him now.and he wasnt wat i thought..i mean were friends but i dont see us being anything more..
so i never really figured out the real reason why i stopped liking him but my answer was..he was to easy to chase plus i got to kno him and it wasnt wat i thought
so maybe u juss got to kno her.and tell me if im wrong but before she liked u, she acted in a way that u liked but when u got to kno her it was juss different and that happens a lot
so i wish u the best =]
u can always message me for more advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): i think your afraid of showing your feelings for sum reason how do you know this girl wat does she mean to you.. u might just be nervous of meeting sum1 that fufills your needs or maybe you know she really cares and you dont want to hurt her in anycase there definately sumthing there find out for yourself
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reader, cherry cherry boom boom +, writes (14 July 2009):
Well I have heard of a guy wanting what he can't have. The girls you come across are too easy you want some one that looks good but have self confadence and self pride for her body and won't just let any one touch it. And a girl like that would want some one like you and eventualy start a relationship. This ya girl, peace.
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