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*azysundays
writes:I know a lot of people probably have the same problem, or something similar, but either way i wanted to write my own question because it kinda helps me feel more personal about the advice.Ok, so there's this girl that I've known for a long time since school, and now we even go to the same university together, and we've spent a lot of time together, either in school or school related activities, we're kinda like best friends. But the more I spend time with her, the more I realize that I like her as more than a friend, for a lot of reasons. My problem is that I'm kind of a shy guy when it comes to relationships, I'm 18 and I've never had a girlfriend, never kissed a girl, and every time I try to start a relationship with someone, something always happens that I end up alone.I'm kind of picky when it comes to girls, not necessarily on the physical aspect, but more like personality wise, etc. I'm looking for a very serious relationship, not just any bf/gf situation, and I think this girl is the one.There's a couple of things that I think are keeping me from making a move. One, I'm too shy to try and tell her how I feel. Two, she has a lot of experience in relationships, and I don't. She's currently going out with someone, but they're not bf/gf, she just says that she hates being alone so she's always looking for someone to hang out with. Another problem is that we're not in the same "social circle" , I know a lot of her friends and stuff, but we don't really hang out that much socially, just like at the university and stuff. I've know her for a really long time, and I've liked her for a while too, even my parents (and her parents!) noticed that I like her. There were times when we would flirt and stuff, and our friendship is really close, but I don't know if she likes me the way I like her. I know I shouldn't be scared to ask her, and I always "psych myself up" to try and tell her, but when I come face to face with her I freeze up. Since I don't really have experience in dating, I don't have a clue when to recognize if she's interested in me or if she just thinks of me as a friend.I like her way too much to not think about her, and I don't mind just being friends, but I really think I could be a good boyfriend for her, I have a lot of good feelings stored inside me that are just dying to get out ! I'm a very caring person, and I think she knows it, and I've told her many times that she is very important to me, but I'm stuck. I really want to go out with her but I don't know how to tell her !We talk on the phone a lot and stuff, but like I said before, I get scared when I try to tell her how I feel.Basically, I just want to know how to recognize if she likes me as more than or friend or not.Because I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship just because I tried to "make a move".Please help,Lazysundays
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reader, Alexmishael  +, writes (16 October 2009):
You need to grab some courage bro. It's even possible she has noticed your love for her but she's just silent about it. Tell her anyhow you can. It's ok.
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