A
female
age
36-40,
*elfconcious
writes:Me and my boyfriend have been on and off for 3 years and it has always had its up and downs but at xmas took a turn for the worse and we broke up for a month.. we got back 2gether and everything was fine until his paranoia drove me crazy but i tried 2 b reassuring and set him straight!! after a bit things settled down and he treated me like a princess but i did not let my guard down due to past experience that i get hurt that way. anyway i let my guard down and BANG!! he goes all distant again and goes off and stops wanting 2 spend time with me and stopped saying the nice things he says. this is not the first time this has happened. but literally over a period of days it went from him saying he loved me he was always horny for me that i was sexy and beautiful and how much he wanted us 2 b 2gether and how scared he was about me leaving him to nothing!! i let my guard down and started 2 accept these things he was saying and believed him and after everythign we would b ok but not so much.. it just seems i let my guard down he knows he can act how he likes cos i find it twice as hard 2 put my guard bk up then i do to let it down cos all i want is him!! its like he gets me where he wants me, then doesnt want me AAHH!!anyways i try and try 2 talk 2 him but he either gets angry, and says all i do is moan, or just cut me short!! what should i do? i love him and my head and heart is tellin me 2 fight for him as i love him soo much!! but i cant keep this constant swinging of him being a dick breaking my heart then incredibly nice and over me all the time.
View related questions:
broke up, horny, period, swinging Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Dazzerg +, writes (21 February 2007):
 Well it seems to me that he possibly has some deep-seated emotional issues that need resolving?? He seems paranoid, distant and then loving all rolled into one which does suggest that there is something going on here. In that sense its a bit hard to comment without knowing his past. Has he had a bad expereince that has made him, for example, scared of commitment or something like that??
Do you have any reason other than his erratic emotions to doubt what he says??
|
