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writes:Is it normal to feel jelous that my partner has kids with his ex but not with me? I understand that it is not rational to think this way but I can't help it. I think it is because it is the most personal thing that there is between two people, and I don't have that with him. I have a son who is 12 so I can see both sides. Just coz I have my son with my ex does not mean I love my partner any less. So why do I feel this way? He never even sees his ex.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 May 2016):
 I hate the word normal. Nobody is normal. We all feel different things, you are feeling jealous, you know it might be irrational but you are still feeling it. So therefore you have accepted that you are jealous of what he shares with his ex partner, but you also see that you have shared the same with your ex partner. Now you need to ask yourself what you are going to do with these feelings? Will you let them bring you down, or will you lock them in a box and bury them? Be positive look at your life and all you have, yes he will love his kids but that does not mean he loves you any less. He wants to be with you. You need to remind yourself off that.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (15 May 2016):
 The feelings you have are real. You have accepted that you have them. This is all positive.
You can show love to his children. like your own. While you didn't physically bear them, and also you can never take the place of their mother, you can give them the love and guidance you think they should have. In this way you are honouring and loving your partner.
Neither of you can remake the past, but the present is yours, and the future for you all, is yours to make.
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