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writes:Ok I met this lady who is a physical therapist where my mother is at a nursing home. From the very day I was introduced to her I have been smitten by her. Anyway, she is married with 3 kids two boys and a girl. I asked the lady who introduced us about her and she said she was happily married. Anyway every time she would be around me she would give me the biggest and warmest smile showing teeth plus giving me eye contact. This would go on every time she knew I was there and she would walk by my mothers room and look in and smile and wave at me.Anyway, knowing she is married has kept me from asking her out but I am totally taken by this lady she is 40 and I am 51 single with no kids. Anyway there was a period where it seemed she was avoiding me this lasted for about two weeks and the reason why was I had walked out of the PT room one time and went and waited in my mothers room until she was bought back in there. I did that because I felt I was being ignored as she continued to talk with a co worker and would never look at me. Today when I went to the nursing home to see my Mom she walked out with another patient and told me Mom was in the RT room and I thanked her. I went in and waited and when she came in I asked her how she was doing since this was the first time since we spoken in two weeks. She told me her house burned down and loss everything and she was actually the one who saved her kids and pet dog from the fire. It's my understanding her husband might travel a lot and wasn't there at the time. I was truly sorry to hear this from her and told her that and when she bought my mom back to her room when she was ready to leave I put my hand on her shoulder and told her if she needed anything to let me know. My attraction for this lady runs deeper than just wanting sex with her.Do you think I left a lasting impression with her by putting my hand on her shoulder and telling her was I told her? For some reason I know it is wrong to make a move on a married woman but there is something different about this lady that draws me to her and I can't walk away and it's killing me.Thank you for your replies.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo me putting my hand on her shoulder and telling her if she needed anything to let me know was out of line and I should have kept my mouth shut and fear and hide because her husband might find out and kick my ass?
No I started taking care of Mom at my house when dad died back in November and a little after she had stroke and was given 3 mounths to live. So as her son I felt it my responibility to help take care of her and if by chance she gets better I will have her again at my house only this time it will be home health care.
I am far from lonely have been active dating singles, singles with kids, divorce women, divorced women with kids and was engaged a few years ago to a lady with no kids but it didn't ban out.
Now I come across this lady not looking and my world is upside down anc can't get enough of her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2010): I would guess that you are very lonely and depressed that your mum is in a nursing home. We went through that with my mum-in-law and my husband found it extremely difficult seeing her like that.
Do/did you live with your mum as you say you are single and have you always been single?
I think this woman is a comfort/fantasy figure who you 'love' because she is looking after your mum and you are reading her friendliness as more than it is. It is probably a part of her job and personality.
After all, you have been told she is happily married. Why are you even considering asking her out?
Have you had many relationships with women?
I think you should keep it on a friendly basis but please don't start anything more that could wreck her marriage. Having been on the receiving end of a cheating husband, it is a devastating experience and causes much hurt and grief to everyone concerned.
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