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writes: Hi,I've been seeing this guy for a year and a half. We dated for a month last year in May, then we broke up because he was still in love with his ex and I didn't want to compete with her, so we decided to break up until he got over her. We continued to talk and we became almost best friends, we began to kiss and hang out and cuddle..I suppose you could of called us 'friends with benefits' even though we knew we had feeling for each other, his ex was in the way. This went on for a year and finally, he asked me to be his girl friend again. I said no, because he was leaving for college in a month. Now he's in college and we talk everyday, I miss him like crazy. Anyways, I know I'm not good enough for him. I know he could find someone amazing, beautiful, smart, talented and everything that I'll never be. I don't want to hold him back, should I just let him go? Even though when I think of him with someone else, I get sick to my stomach. I like him sooo much, he's the most amazing person. I just know I'm not good enough for him, I don't have enough confidence in myself to give him the love he deserves, he doesn't deserve to be stuck with me. So, should I just let him go? Sorry for the rambling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just ended it... He doesn't even care. He said it's not that I'm not good enough, it's just he's too faraway. Ugh, this sucks. I can't even explain how sad I am. You guys, thank you for your advice!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (30 August 2011):
 this is not about you not being good enough for him. Of course you are good enough for him.
he's not stuck with you but being LDR is very hard even when as adults with jobs and easy transportation you can be together on a regular basis.
maybe just be friends while he's away at college.. NOT because you are not good enough but because YOU ARE good enough and smart enough and realistic enough to do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2011): To me it sounds like you have low self-esteem. I understand because I also have low self-esteem. I've felt this way, too. But if he didn't think you were good enough, he wouldn't be with you. In my experience a guy won't date a girl he's not attracted to. This is probably part of a bigger issue within yourself. You need to learn to build your self-esteem. I know how hard that is, I've struggled my whole life. You can write down every day one thing you like about yourself, whatever that may be, and even if it is silly. "Today my hair wasn't too tangled when I woke up," or "My shirt went well with my eyes," or "I did a good job at ________." Also put this on a sticky on your mirror: I am looking at the main source of my happiness.Sounds cheesey, I know, but you can do it. If you think you are depressed, don't be afraid to ask for help.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (30 August 2011):
 Why do you think you are not good enough for him. He likes you or he wouldn't have bothered hanging out with you and kissing you for all that time and he certinally wouldn't have asked you to be his GF if he didn't like you. Have confidence that you are a beautiful, funny, special person who deserves to be in love with someone. Ring him and tell him you made a mistake and you really want to be with him.
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