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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes: I’m 16 and the guy I really like is also 16. Ok so I’ve liked this guy for 3 years now and theres no end in sight. He moved out where I live 3 years ago and after a month of getting to know him I liked him and hadn’t stoped since. Anyway we’re messed around a few times over the years and he’s always kind of known I’ve liked him. He did like me for a while when we first met but I didn’t know so nothing really happened. Ok well over the 3 years we’ve know each other we’re been pretty good friends. But know things changed cause just recently he’s gotten a girlfriend from his old school. We’re still friends and all but I just keep how I feel about him to myself even though everyone already knows I like him. Well the problem I am confused about is my feelings. I’ve never ever felt this way towards any guy before. But its different then a crush, but like I really like him like more then anything. He’s constantly on my mind, and I love being with him. Even if its just for a few minutes, I just love the time we spend together. Whenever I see him I cant help but smile. I notice every time when hes sad and trys to hide it. When ever hes sad I am to and I would so anything to just have him be happy again. I love his smile and want him to be happy and smile every day. I would more then anything to be with him. When I imagine myself with him in the future it seems so amazing. I’ve seen his sweet and caring side and I know he treats a girl right, and that’s the kind of guy I want. But he has a girlfriend now and I accept that only cause I know hes happy and that’s the thing that matters. Then I wonder how his girlfriend treats him. Hes told me hes gotten his heart broken many times. I really don’t want him to go through that pain again. And now I don’t know what to do, everyone keeps telling me to move on and get another guy. But I just don’t feel as strong for any other guy and I’ll feel bad cause if I were to date someone else I would always end up putting the guy I like first. I’ve tried dating someone already but only thought of the guy I like now so I ended up braking up with that other guy. And I know I should move on but I’m stupid and still even now believe I have a chance with him. Hes the only guy I want to be with. I’m to hard headed. But I don’t want to waste my time if nothing ever happens. But I more then anything want it to happen. I’m sick of feeling this way. I tried to get over him so many times in the past, but every single time I would always end up liking him even more. The more time passes the more I like him. Normally I always find something that bothers me in a person, but for him I honestly like all the goods and bads. But I know I cant force him to like me and I’m ok with that, as long as he’s happy. But I don’t k now what to do, I’ve been to confused lately. Please help.
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reader, butterfliesjjcx +, writes (26 October 2010):
 does he know you feel this way about him? if he doesn't you need to tell him. sit down with him and be straight! It's all about chance hunny! if he doesnt return he feelings..which he may not since he has a gf...then you need to move on. sounds like you have a great friendship and maybe he'll always be that "what if" guy. honestly you will feel better once you take it to him! hope that helps. good luck. keep me updated!
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