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writes:dear agony aunts,I know a boy who thinks that I am nasty and I have no idea why. We recently went out with each other but it was a short relationship and did not get serious. However I still really like him as a friend and want the situation to work out but what can I do if I don't even know why he's actiing like this? I cannot work out what I have done wrong and want to try and improve the situation. How can I make him change his mind? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2007): Has he actually said you are nasty? Why did he go out with you in that case. Why don't you ask him why he is like this? There may have been a misunderstanding.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2007): Well you can't make him like you or change his mind. I agree with the other aunts here, and maybe he has something going on at home and it is making him feel bad so he wants more love, and maybe you didn't give it to him. A long chat will solve this hun =)
All my love
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2007): The short answer to your question is - You CAN'T make him like you or want to spend time with you if he doesn't wish to.
I realize that its frustrating and upsetting for you if you still like him, and you don't know what you've done wrong. Truth is, you more than likely have done NOTHING wrong.
Its not possible to like everybody you meet, and there could be a million reasons. Maybe, for instance, he doesn't care for your hairstyle, the color of your eyes, or the way you dress, or the things you like to talk about. Its unfair, and not reasonable, but that's the way life is, sometimes. What attracts us to one person may not attract us to another. Think about it: Of all the different boys at your school is there one you can think of that you would not want as a friend? If so, do you know why?
Anyway, there's going to be other boys who will like you and want to be your friend. I wouldn't waste much time on this one who without good cause considers you "nasty" - YOU DESERVE BETTER!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2007): You shouldn't try making people change their minds.
He may have a reason, even though you say you've done nothing wrong.
Or maybe he's just being silly, and trying to seek attention.
You should talk to him hun.
See what he has to say.
Good luck.
x
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