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writes:I dated a girl for about a year. We decided to end it because we were both going to be apart from eachother because of college. About four months ago we decided to get back together. At first, it was the greatest thing that has happened to me. But then she told me that she slept with my best friend when we were broken up. She tells me this after several times of me asking. It took about 3 months to get the whole truth out of her. And now a little after she tells me the truth she then reveals that she had cheated on me at the end of our first relationship. How can I forgive her? I love her with all my heart I can't picture myself with anyone else, but this is so hard. Is it possible to stay after all the lying and now the cheating or is it time for me to move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): Once a cheater always a cheater. You take it from there. And I agree that she never respected you. Love hurts. Cut it off with her and with that guy who's definitely NOT your best friend!
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reader, DV1 +, writes (3 July 2008):
 The lowest thing that you can do to someone is to date their best friend. If she did that, and cheated on you, I'm sorry to say, she never respected you in the first place. The heart can only ache for so long before it forces itself to move on. Give it time, you'll be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): If you really love her with all your heart, then you will eventually learn how to forgive her. I assure you. But don't expect to forgive her one day to another. This will take time to heal, and if she is truely sorry and truely loves you, she will have to wait for you to forgive her completely.Give time to your relationship, if you think it's worth it. You decide if you can handle this pain until you are able to forgive what she did.
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reader, Angel4eva08  +, writes (3 July 2008):
Im sorry to hear what she has done to you. I recently have been threw a similar experience. I think only you know whats best for you. She has clearly hurt you and will no doubt do it again. But give your self time, trust is a fragile thing and she broke that, now its going to take a while to get it back, if you ever do. You need space from her and let yourself breathe and clear your head. Go and enjoy yourself with your friends and push her to the back of your mind. Eventually you will realise you dont need her and can be happy without her. Probably happier. Feel free to contact me or write back with any other enquires.
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