A
male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:hi, my girlfriend of 4 yrs broke up with me four months ago and i just cant stop thinking of her. i do feel better than i did at the beginning but im worried that im always gonna think that i would be happier with her than with any one i may meet in the future.we were absolutley made for eachother, according to everyone. i really did think the world of her, without trying to be to soppy i really did love absolutley everything about her. she was really pretty, way to stunning for me in my opinion and probs every1 elses.not that it matters but i really did feel like i was the luckiest person in the world to have her, also cos we were so similar and she was so nice too.we were both our first relationships and met when i was 16 and she was 15, i know we'r young but we both were very mature for our ages.we both could never believe how lucky we were to find each other so young(corny i know!). anyway, 4 months ago she started uni, and the weekend she went, she was ringing me crying her eyes out cos she was missing me. she begged me to go and see her, not that i needed much persuading, so the next day i drove 60miles to her uni to see her. she had written me a big letter tellin me how she loved me and wanted to spend the rest of her life with me and wanted to marry me etc. once i read it we made love and i stayed the night and drove back to work in the morning. that week we spoke on the phone everyday and i was paranoid that she was missing me less and less and got quite needy. this lead to us arguing a lot and when she came back home the next weekend i could sense she was distant and she broke up with me. she said that she hasnt been happy for ages, i was a mess!to say the least we agreed to go on a break instead and spent the whole weekend together, even sleeping in the same bed and hugging on the sofa like nothing had happened, but on sunday night in bed she sed we should break up not to leave any1 hanging.a lot has happened since then and now. iv found out after 3 or four weeks shes got a new bf. i found out off her sisters bf, and he told me hes everything she used to say she didnt like in blokes eg,fake tan, perfect hair, jus a pretty boy whos full of himself.not bitchin.lol.also my friends sent her a nasty message when they were out drunk without me,really wish they hadnt im worried incase she thinks ive been bad mouthing her now.what makes things really hard is too,is that, her best friend is with my mate and im friendly with her and evry now and then i see a pic of my ex on her phone or summin stupid like that.i really just want sum advice that isnt off my friends cos i feel theyve got a bias outlook on the situation, they say i should forget about her cos shes horrible for doing things the way she did. i loved her so much its beyond belief.everyone tells me even my friends girlfriends,that shes gonna have a shock because i treated her like a princess and that im the nicest bloke they all know.but i feel that i was too nice and that this new bloke might be more of a challenge to her.treat em mean keep em keen type thing.I say id never go back with her now but why would i keep hoping she regrets this, and iv dreamt of her every night the last 2 weeks.im worried that il never see or speak to her again but at the same time i dont want to be friends cos it will be to hard and she might come out every now and again with our circle of friends and bring her new bf.i know its sad but i feel if i find out in years shes got married, ill allways wonder what that person haqs i dont, just cos i treated her so well and we both seemed to have everything in eachother.sorry its so long, but all this is constantly on my mind. can anyone sort my head out.lol
View related questions:
a break, best friend, broke up, drunk, my ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2007): hi, your story is exactly same with mine, the only difference is my gf started new job and fall in love with the type of guy that she never wanted to be with. i know how u feel my friend, cos it only happen to me 3 weeks ago.
Im feeling exactly same way you are now, hoping she would regret, but its not gonna happen anytime soon my friend.
My best advice for you is to cut off everything with her, this will help you heal your broken heart faster, move on with your life and be a better person (both the look and finance)
After you completely over her, then u can start seeing her again as a friend, just having good time and never mention about the past.
Then if thing goes well, she'll start missing u and how happy u been together, she would probably wanna come back with u if her current relationship doesnt work out good
Then u would have a choice let her come back or reject her cos u already over her and probably be with someone else as well...
So my friend, cry if u would, but when u wake up, get her out of ur life asap and move on...dont ever try to call or msg her...trust me
Good luck
A
female
reader, Jendorset +, writes (31 January 2007):
Tell her one last time you miss her. If she doesnt want to get back with you, then ler her go. Shes obviously not the one your ment to be with, otherwise she wouldnt have left you. You seem like a nice guy, if you dont think you will love anyone new you meet. Then just stay single for a while. It would not be fair on the other girl if you started a new relationship with someone else. I think you need your space.
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2007): Ok, I am also sorry to hear this, break up is always hard, specially when you have been so attached to the person and love each other. You have to know what you feel is natural process, so don't blame yourself or anyone else. One thing you have to do to help you move on is come to the realiziation that this relationship is over, and next step is just forgive and forget. Not as easy as I am saying it, but you got to close a door behind you in order to open a another doors infornt of you. So sooner you do that you are better off emotionally.
Think of it as a experience of life, try not to make the same mistakes in the next relationship, make sure you know what you want, and never end up in the situation that you are involve and don't know where you are heading.
keep busy with friends, try to avoid knowing about her and what she does, keep away, and move on.
Take care, and Good luck
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2007): Hello,
I am so very sorry to hear about the split. Four years is a long time. I know that a lot of people change with school graduations, distances, end of Uni splits too, but it is all part of a bigger picture - changing and growing apart. Change will remain a constant in life, but if you are as open to relationships and love (if you can have one long term relationship, you can have another) as you have been - then you are ahead of the game - and I know that some lucky young girl is dreaming of meeting you.
...............................
|
