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writes: I never seem to be able to get a girlfriend everytime i ask a girl out she turns me down i just wish some girl would like me but none do but i like many girls but since i have been turned down so many times i am afraid to get close to any girl and i just want to know how i can be more attractive to girls
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reader, kalishnikov  +, writes (28 May 2009):
 Well its very difficult to give any specific advice because of the fact that all girls are the same but different also...
I agree a lot with some of the above but dont agree w/ others. This is probably the most valueable thing you will find in the midst of all this clutter:
ALWAYS PRETEND AND ACT AS THOUGH THE GIRL YOU ARE APPROACHING/ ASKING OUT/ TALKING TO ETC. LIKES YOU ALREADY.
I think that when you do this you put yourself at ease and remove the distance and possibly frustrating or difficult atmosphere. People tend to act according to how you act towards them if you expect to be rej. then... if you make yourself believe that your admired then the situation will prove itself. this ties directly into your confidence.
Hope it helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2008): well what you need to do my friend is be confident and make it to where she knows your interested but don't push the fact that you realy like her just play it kewl and if she comes to you then you got the right one,if she doesn't come to you first try give it some time and be yourself talk to her as you were talking to your freinds or family dont be afraid to flert with them but dont over do it.all in all be nice but not to nice woman love for you to be distant and nice makes them wonder what could this guy be.best of luck
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reader, macmichael  +, writes (6 November 2007):
p.s girls dont like interesting people because so many guys get girls who are not interesting and pay them about as much attention as well not much. Its sadly just confidence.
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reader, macmichael +, writes (6 November 2007):
you need to be cnfident! all the confident guys get the girls no problem. Just look at the gus who get the girls and copy them. Please dont just hope someone nice will come along and love you for who you are cuz underconfidence will put ANY woman off. p.s women do bite if you are underconfident and shy
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reader, macmichael +, writes (6 November 2007):
you need to be cnfident! all the confident guys get the girls no problem. Just look at the gus who get the girls and copy them. Please dont just hope someone nice will come along and love you for who you are cuz underconfidence will put ANY woman off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2007): Forget women. The fundamental fact about humans, either women or men is that they are selfish creatures. Any communication you have with any human will likely result in that person screwing you over in some way, whether it is money, friendship or affection, or if neither of these, superficiality.
My recommendation is to stay away from the rest of humankind until they sort themselves out and figure out how to love one another.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2006): alrighty. not saying i know much but how are u going about asking them. cause in my experience u can walk up to any women anywhere and get them to go out with you. some guys rush it and some give up. the point is its easier to become a womens friend first and then see if it progresses. but if you dont just want to pull straight off its best to compliment as the lovely ladys have suggested but u will get a far better response if you compliment personallity its the one thing wemon cant change now adays. also read a study saying people take what starangers say more to heart then and friend. if you compliment her on her body regardless how nice u will think your just in it for the wrong reasons. start with the personality then later the smile. also wemon talk in body language. if she like u look for signs. like laughing, eye contact, fidgetting with her phisical apperience usually mean subconsously she want to look good for u although she wont realise. firm eye contact wemon love as they like to be noticed. lastly is initating the more than friends bit while your talking maybe move slightly closer if she likes u she wont mind if she doesnt she will move away then give her space dont pressurise she already said no by moving. lastly the big if she like u is to intiate some body contact like moving closer while your sitting so your knees touch or asking her to dance and take her hand or some kind of interesting contact game. if she doesnt mind that you should get her number u can always ask her out later it will make u seem cooler and make her think of u waiting to msg. if you want to do it then ask her out to somewhere she wants to go not u she likes sea food in conversation ask her to one whereever she likes even if its the opera. suck it up for her. lastly i find the really good worth while women are found when your not looking to find anyone. hope it helped sorry it was long and if i can do anything for anyone my email is [email address blocked]
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matthew
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2005): Find a relative that is femalemthat you trust and ask her. Take her out and have the talk to find out what she thinks is wrong with you. Be open and honest. Any man get sweep any women off her feet if he knows who he is first. Then ask a girl out that you would never expect to say yes and be unique about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2005): Simple! Don't bother asking them out. Who wants to suffer the humiliation of rejection? Thing is girls don't bother making the first move, or signal interest and if they don't then there is no point asking them out. They will either say no, or lead you on and it'll be a case of thanks but no thanks with them. They can't say no if you don't ask them out, so don't give them the satisfaction. They do play hard to get and don't give their love easy, and that is one thing you need to remember. My advice is to give up and not bother asking them out, that way you can avoid rejection which will keep making you feel worse. They can't say no then can they if you don't ask them out.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (27 January 2005):
 In addition to the great answer posted below, this is another suggestion: don't think you have to "be" something that you're not when you talk to girls.A lot of young lads think they have to use some hackneyed pick-up line or other, or pretend to be streetwise, or older then they are, or tougher.. or whatever. Nothing could be further from the truth. What girls are interested in is guys who are fun, happy and interesting. (Girls whose only interest is in guys with cars and money are a huge waste of food and air, and you'd want to avoid them anyway.) Go up to a girl you like, introduce yourself and ask her about herself, or talk about a class you have in common, or compliment her on how she looks, etc. Even just something like "Hi Kerrin. You look great today!" can break the ice.To be fun, happy and interesting, don't be shy about talking about things that interest you and going to places where other people are likely to be interested in the same things. If you're an intellectual, smile and talk to girls at the library. If you like cars, go to race meets and talk to girls there. If you like comic books, go to conventions. And if money stops you from going to distant events, don't overlook the online communities where people gather to talk about their interests. Lots of girls like to chat online, and that's another good way to get to know someone.Go on!
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (24 January 2005):
 I think that perhaps you need to develop yourself a little more before you ask out another girl. Why not pursue your hobbies, spend some time with your mates and forget about girls for a while. Try to develop your confidence.Girls like interesting, confident guys who are interested in them! It really is that simple. They do like shy guys too but you need to be a bit more confident in yourself to strike up a genuine and friendly conversation with a girl.Don't ask a girl out straight away. Try to develop a friendship with her first. Get her to open out and confide in you as to her likes and dislikes, hobbies and interests. You need also to be able to say things about yourself which would interest her such as your job and your favourite pastimes.Take your time asking a girl out and be yourself. Don't be afraid of them, they don't bite but equally, don't take it as rejection if they say no. There are plenty more fish in the sea!!Good luck.
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