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writes: Dear Cupid,I can't get a former boyfriend off my mind. It’s a very weird situation considering the fact that we were only children when we met. He was my "boyfriend" for three years. I say it that way because our relationship was very innocent, we were so young 9-12, but there was something about our interactions with each other that make me feel as though we are soul mates.We connected on a level that I just can't explain. We haven't seen or spoken to each other in nearly six years but as of lately I can't stop dreaming about him. I dream about what it would be like if we were to find each other again, reestablish a relationship, and fall back in love with each other and get married. I dream that he still has feelings for me and thinks about me as much as I think about him. I currently live in a different city than him and it would be dumb for me to try and contact him. I feel as though I'm pathetic for not having moved on with my life. I'm sure he has moved on with his and probably doesn't remember me, less on still have feelings for me. The circumstances surrounding our relationship are so difficult to explain but there are some small indications when I last saw him that he still had some interest in me. What should I do to move on with my life? I'm almost 20 years old and have yet to have any sort of relationship with the opposite sex and not counting the varying innocent kisses on the check I shared with this one "boyfriend" as an adolescent, I've never even been kissed! What should I do? Should I seriously explore trying to get back in touch with him or just move on with my life? How can I get on with my life when I can't stop thinking and daydreaming about him? I really need to find a solution though. I dread going to sleep at night because I know I will dream of him and wake up the next morning feeling bad about me and my life and how alone I am. Please help!--Nightmares of Dreams
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reader, Soul sister +, writes (31 March 2005):
hi,take the advice from someone who was EXACTLY in your shoes, EXACTLY!When i was younger i fell in love SERIOUSLY when i was just eleven going on twelve.The boy i loved had this effect on me that was indescribable which is how you feel. I couldn't sleep at night worrying that he didn't love me anymore!Although i feel this way i know he still does love me and so i don't mind thinking about him because i can just turn back and be with him anytime i like. I used to dread going to sleep aswell. But i just kept saying to myself "been there done that" I have grown up now and i think now that he doesn't deserve me he dumped me remember he didn't want it to work out so i left it at that and now i can't wait to go to sleep because i dream of different things other than him.Just do what i did it works and give it time and you'll get over him!Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2005): As soon as I read your story, I thought...that sounds familiar! You see, although I'm 35 yrs old and am in a steady relationship with someone I love, there have been times in this relationship - and past ones, when I've found myself getting 'obsessed' if you like, not only with very past boyfriends, but actors or singers I am attracted to as well. I would think about what our lives would be like together, dream of them etc, and for me this always seemed to happen if I was feeling 'insecure', i.e. not feeling very loved or wanted or desired (mostly due to breakdown of communication within my relationships I expect)so maybe it's not simply that you wish to be with your past boyfriend, but that you simply want to be with someone because you're feeling lonely? and as your childhood sweetheart is really your main reference for 'a happy relationship' this is why it's him you think of (plus it adds to the excitement a little when you have to imagine what they're really like now...and as you don't know, your fantasies make that up for you, creating this perfect wonderful man in your mind!)If you do decide to chase him up, just remember that he may be completely different now! personally though I think you could just be feeling lonely/rejected whatever! so firstly take a good look at yourself - realise your worth, then get yourself out and meet someone who will make you feel wanted!! (it's just my opinion - feel free to ignore!!)
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A reader, Michael Knight, writes (22 March 2005): Hi,I think you should try getting in touch with him because there is maybe a chance he still thinks about you! You never know.My advice is GO FOR IT!regards,Michael Knight
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