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I keep asking her about all these guys, now she thinks I don't trust her. Should I be worried, should I trust her? If so, how do I show her that I do?

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Question - (24 September 2008) 2 Answers - (Newest, 9 October 2008)
A male United States age 26-29, *aintballer4life9494 writes:

My girlfriend thinks that i dont trust her. There is this guy at her school that she used to like and she has just found out that he likes her. So now when she gets home and I call her the conversation usually starts off with "So did he say anything to you today?". She keeps on saying that she would never leave me for him or anyone else and I tell her that I believe her. But I'm still worried that something might happen.

Then there is this other guy she dated once that broke up with her because he didnt see her. And she told me that they had a conversation on why he couldn't just wait a few weeks until school starts. I don't know if I sound paranoid but that just sounded like she still likes him. She did tell me before she told me about the conversation that she doesnt want to say anything wrong that might sound like she still likes him. But i just dont know. I mean I trust her, I really do, but she doesnt think so becasue I'm always asking about them. She is also always telling me that I shouldnt be worried, and that she is happy with me. I also forgot to mention that she goes to a different school and that she is older than me, and that i only see her about twice a week. Like, I was just wondering if i should trust her, like she hasn't done anything for me not to? And also how do I show her that I really do trust her? Just pleasae read this and then tell me what you think.

Thank-you

P.S And also should I be worried at all and how do I show her that I'm not?

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A male reader, paintballer4life9494 United States +, writes (9 October 2008):

paintballer4life9494 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

We are doing much better, she tolfd me that she has trouble trusting boys because of what has happened in the past with a boy, so we talked and now it is better. And she told me that she is happy that i am not worried anymore.

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A female reader, izzy82 Australia +, writes (24 September 2008):

Hi there,

Take it from someone who's been in the same situation it is NOT a good idea to constantly ask your partner questions about this guy. If you keep bring it up and bringing it up over and over again she WILL start to get frustrated and annoyed and her mind will start to wander to him. At first she will think of him and wonder why you're so jealous and then she will start thinking of him in other ways. Trust me i have been in a very similar situation and i was on the receiving end of a jealous boyfriend, nothing was going on with the other guy but eventually my boyfriend drove me insane and we broke up and yes i did end up in the arms of the other guy.

I'm not saying we're experiencing the same thing but it seems very similar and i wouldn't want you to get hurt by your own actions.

Good luck with it all :)

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