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writes:I’ve been dating a lovely girl for four weeks. I text her good morning every day, to which she responds right away. We usually have conversation, with both of us keeping the conversation going. It’s very balanced. The conversation usually tapers off by itself. Sometimes I’ll text her one or two more times throughout the day, to which again she responds well to. But if I don’t text her first I usually don’t hear from her first until she replies to my good morning again the next day. A couple times a week she’ll text first in the evening, with an interesting link or photos of her day (such as dinner with friends). But that’s about it. I call her every 2-3 days as well and she’s never called me first. We’ve been on twelve dates and she’s planned two of them. The dates and conversations themselves are amazing. But she almost never initiates. What do you think, not interested or not into texting? I would love to hear from her first sometimes or hear from her more… Should I just tell her? I don’t want to come off as clingy. My friends say I should back off a bit and see if she picks up but I don’t want to play games either.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 May 2016):
 I don't think you should approach this subject so soon. It has only been twelve dates, and from what you write everything sounds positive from both sides.
Yes she does not initiate much, but that does not mean she is not interested. It could mean she is laid back, or that she is a bit shy. It could also be that she is unsure off what you want from her. I think just keep getting to know her for now, and if you want to take things to the next stage then talk to her and ask her how she feels about you. You can also then say to her how sometimes you are unsure how she is feeling as you feel you are doing all the chasing. But for now take it slow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2016): It is early on in the relationship and she probably doesn't feel comfortable reaching out to you first, probably afraid she might push you away. Open up and let her know that you'd like it if she did, you won't seem clingy, she'll be happy to know you're interested.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (14 May 2016):
 What is your intent with this girl? To keep dating endlessly or to eventually close the deal and make her your GF? She is probably like me, clueless at your intent. She responds because she likes you but lack of initiative means confusion. And the confusion comes from you because she has no clue what you want.
After 4 weeks, decide what you want with her, meet up with her and close the deal... Ask her to be your GF. See her reaction and if she says yes, you will likely see a different personality from her afterwards.
On the other hand, if you decide you don't want her as a GF, stop texting her and move on.
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