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writes:Is it wrong to want more in life? I have been in a relationship for about 3 years now. I am completely happy and want nothing more then to be with him. But the problem seems to be that I have all these plans and goals. When I talk about them it seems like I kind of hurt his feelings. He supports me no matter what I choose but he says that sometimes it feels like I am making all these plans and he doesn't fit into them. Everything I ever think about revolves around him in some way and our life together. It's never big decisions it's just things about me, like finishing college or changing majors or getting my dream job and wanting great pay. I don't feel that I should be hurting his feelings when deciding things that will only help us in the end. I always ask his opinion about my choices and he usually helps me decide but could I actually be leaving him out without knowing it or am I just being paranoid? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2007): I am 42 and feel the same, so don't worry. Life works in funny ways sometimes and what will be will be. Your young so go for your gole as it gets harder the older you get and if he's meant to stay inyour life he will. You go girl !!
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (22 June 2007):
 I think he worries that once you attain all these goals, you will abandon him.
My guess is that if he is not a go-getter himself, AND if he is unable to support you in the way that you need, it is a sign that he is not the one for you.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (21 June 2007):
 Ask him what he wants from the future and see if you can intertwine both your goals. If he doesn't have any then I can't see what's wrong with you living yours. Try to involve him a little more in your plans.
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