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30-35,
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writes:I feel silly for asking this but these birth control hormones have got me a little crazy. I am with a wonderful man, a man I hope to marry someday and we have been together for an interesting seven months so far. But last summer, both of my best friends (and the only two women I ever hung out with) got married and moved out of state.One friend went to California where her husband is stationed in the USAF. The other went to North Carolina where her husband is stationed in the US Army and she now has a one month old daughter. I'm still in Illinois for the foreseeable future as my boyfriend and I still need to finish our college degrees.I don't necessarily feel like I'm falling behind on the marriage and kid thing; on the contrary, I'm glad I'm not married or pregnant yet. I'm only turning 21 in a couple of weeks and I know that personally, I'm not ready (both financially and mentally) for such big commitments just yet. My best friends may be but I'm not... yet.The point of this post is that my boyfriend still has most of his friends in state; in fact, most of them are still in town and very much single. I have absolutely no qualms about him hanging out with his friends most of time because I'm not a controlling person. In fact, I encourage him to hang out with them sometimes.But the last time I actually hung out with another chick was 27 November 2010 and that was because of my best friend's baby shower. Tonight is the second night in a week that my boyfriend will be hanging out with his friends and I'll be honest, I'm starting to resent that.I mean, I'm glad he can be social and all that. He is a fun-loving, outgoing guy. I just wish I had someone to hang out with. Most of the women I know are either attached and never leave their houses or they're too busy with work and school or we say we should hang out and it never happens.My boyfriend is really sensing this and he's trying to help me but it doesn't help that none of his friends have girlfriends that I could hang out with. I mean, I'm not a bad person. I complain just like the next person but sometimes, it just sucks. I'm a fun, random chick and I just want a freakin' friend.I know I'm sounding like a whiny bitch right now but it's getting really annoying that I have no one to hang out with.What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2011): I have a problem similar to yours and I wish you lived near me! I desperately need a girl friend to talk to and go eat lunch with. I understand completely and know how hard it is to find someone you can trust, who isn't a drunk, drug addict, or has a family to take care of that takes up all their time. It's hard being alone and having only one person to talk to, especially if that one person isn't always there for you... All I can say is that taking a hot bath helps me and I'm trying to become more independent so that I don't sound so needy to my boyfriend. I, too, don't know what to do with myself, and have no idea where to find a friend.
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